It's funny cause I was thinking the same thing. Online dating...or should I say socializing online has become a legitimate form of meeting people in the modern age, where a lot of people find it hard to do so by traditional means whether because of time contraints or other factors. How is this form of socializing any different than picking up someone at a bar or a club?
Well meeting someone online is kinda like meeting someone for the first time on the phone or something like that. It is not the same as meeting someone in person just because the physical presense isnt there. A Bar or a club for example there is alot of eye contacts and other body language involved that usually happens prior to the 'walk up and conversate'. Its like a little mating dance. Plus online you can pretend to be someone you are not easier than if you met them in person. I'm not saying theres anything wrong with meeting people online. It's great technology advancements allow us this option. I'm just saying they are not the same.
I have a couple of friends who've gone this route, online dating, with mixed results. They've had good times, bad, and mediocre. It's not something I've dealt with, myself. There wasn't an internet when I was single and going out with the opposite sex. I'm not trying to give anyone any grief... I honestly don't see why people can't meet people, "at a bar or a club," or at a grocery store, or a park, or walking down the street, at a concert, a friend's party, or having them move into the house in front of your garage apartment, and meeting them while sitting under a bush, feeding worms to your pet owl. There are a host of ways to meet people. Time constraints? You think, "time constraints," haven't always been around? If I wanted to give someone a hard time, I'd say that online dating was intellectually lazy. I haven't said that. If it works for you, go for it. As with anything else, be prepared for the pitfalls.
Well like I said I've known a few people who've tried it with good results. Myself, not so much, because at the same time I was trying that out I fell in love with a friend of mine. I will say that it is kind of sad that people don't get out from behind their monitor and meet people face to face these days. But I do think in certain circumstances such an outlet is justified and a very good way for people to meet those of similar interests; for those who've already done or aren't into other conventional methods. I think each method has its strength and weaknesses though. I think online you have a better chance of getting to know someone as opposed to in a bar where you're pretty much half drunk and actin like... well, like an alpha male . But then in a physical setting you have a greater chance of developing chemistry with someone. But hell, whatever works.
Forget the "new woman," they are still the same; they expect you to carry the financial load. They want you to pay, they want you to care enough to take care of them. Cheap is a huge turn off. If you cannot afford to date, do not date. Giving is still the universal way to say, I love you. Temper and cursing are also a turn off unless you are dating a female longshoreman. That is scary, scary is bad. Ever watch Lifetime, me neither, but I hear there are alot of shows about abuse. Temper, cursing, abuse, all scary. Trust me, I know this stuff.
