So its day 3 post breakup. I still have the pain in my heart though now it comes and goes. She called me last night and we talked for almost an hour. She said she really misses me and wanted to hang out with me just as friends. She said that she was considering being my girlfriend again but wasn't sure and asked me if I would get back with her if she was willing to. I said yes. I don't know if I made a mistake by doing that. What do y'all think? So far today, she hasn't called.
"If you love something let it go. If it comes back to you it's yours, if it doesn't it never was." DMX If she's saying she misses you now then I'd say she doesn't know what she wants. She could talk about love tommorow get your hopes up and do a 180 and crush you the next day. I would say that if you honestly have a conviction in you about how you feel about her then go for it, but beware that much of your thinking might be clouded by emotions. Ask yourself exactly what you want out of a relationship with her. If this is kind of a iffy question for you right now then maybe dating again will help you better define this answer. If you do choose to get back with her my advice would be for now though to not get too attached. Don't hang on pins and needles hoping that'll she will come back and everything will be how it was. I strongly agree with the poster that referenced time. I was in a situation pretty similiar to this one a few months back. I know right now, you probably feel like someone is gutting your insides, but from my experiences there's few substitues for time. No matter what happens though, remember to take this as a learning experience.
Well it might have been better if you had said that you weren't sure and you would see after hanging out as friends. But it isn't all that big of a deal I wouldn't think.
no, she's a year older than me. ****, even listening to love songs on the radio trigger the pain in my heart. I heard "Could it be I'm falling in love" by the Spinners today and the lyrics made me feel like commiting subuki.
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Dude!!!! She just sent you another **** test. And you failed it miserably again. You shouldn't have picked up, first of all. If she called back again you could have picked up, but kept it short, about 5 minutes, then said you had to go do something (make up a lie). When she asked you if you would take her back, definitely should have said no. Say that you're trying to move on and explore new things, and you already have a date for this weekend.
Dont worry. Everyone feels like this post a bad breakup. It'll slowly get better as time passes. Most importantly, don't cave in. You made a decision and if you think that was best for you, then stick by it. Caving in to the easy solution and getting together again may well just end up badly if not worse again. Just hang out with other people and spend time doing things you like to get your mind off of it. Yea it'll still hurt and it's easier for me to say that but from experience, I think most can say that that is the only thing you can do.
Don't answer her calls all the time, and do stuff that you couldn't do when she was around. Hang out with another chick and give some space between the both of you. It sounds like you haven't resolved or realized the problems that started this. She sounds wishy washy right now. For all you know, she just came back from a bad online date. Just do stuff, and thoughts like that won't be an issue.
I would try DD's advice at this point. Be gracious. What do you have to lose? Show her you have some class, and for god's sake, try to be relaxed about it, and cool. Don't act desperate, although that's clearly how you feel. You need to calm down and be a gentleman about this. What do you have to lose? If it doesn't work out, you move on, and you know you gave it your best shot. Chill! And don't listen to Nomar!!
Because every relationship has hiccups and if he really loves her, and there was a mistake, even if it doesn't work out, it doesn't hurt to show some class. As for why believe DD over Nomar...that is easy. DD gets banned from D&D, Nomar gets banned from BBS. Rookie...SHEESH ! DD
we have all been through this before. Go with Buzamali's advice. Shes young and confused just like you are right now. Give it a month, Dont talk to her! Dont see her, go out and have fun it will take your mind off of her for a little while. After a month your head will be clear and you can make a rational decsion. Right now neither one of you are rational. Who knows what is going on in her mind right now. Frankly Who Cares. You dont need to know whats shes doing. Leave some mystery for her to figure out.
The girl is playing games, and he's not acting in the correct manner. Bending over further for her is not the right play here.
Contrary to some opinions, not everyone is playing games in relationships. More than likely I'm betting she's just not sure what she wants; Just give her some space and if she comes back think about it long and hard whether you decide on anything. Even though it hurts now, you don't want to make a mistake cause there could be someone else out there that's better for you.
No it's not. He needs to start acting like more of an alpha male, and less of a needy guy who will do anything to keep her from "slipping away".
