Girl Advice Needed

I'm gonna need to give some (ok, a lot of) background for my current sitation to make sense.

First, I'm in college. Not a shocker there. I'm currently a sophomore. Freshman year, there was this girl (girl #1) who I just hung out with a lot, and I just felt really comfortable around her, ya know? Just had this really great feeling about her? So I asked her out, and we ended up dating for 8 months. What brought it to an end was that she came back from summer break, and she had basically become a really different person. It was obvious to everyone, and she told me as much herself. We didn't really work together anymore. I'm still good friends with her, but we're never gonna get back together.

Then there was another girl last sem (girl #2) who had basically been stalking me for like 3 weeks. And she was really, really hot. Really hot. So, against my better judgement, I asked her out mere days after me and girl #1 had broken up. That lasted maybe 2 or 3 weeks and ended badly.

A little more than a month later, a girl who had actually graduated already and hung out with one of my groups of friends (I had known her for awhile), decided she'd like to give it a go with me (girl #3). That lasted about 3 weeks, and we just ended it. We really liked each other and still do, but it just didn't feel right for whatever reason. Possibly the fact that's she's graduated and I'm a sophomore had something to do with it.

You know how I said I just had that good feeling with girl #1? I didn't have that with #2 or #3. I just dated them because they were there really. It was just a "why not?" sorta thing with both of them.

So here's my current situation: I got that feeling that I had about girl #1 again. Last Friday.

I have a job as a computer tech about 20 hours per week, and I'm in charge of 3 dorms, so I go through a lot of people. I needed to fix a virus on this girl's computer, and it took about 2.5 hours or so. And *******, I haven't hit it off with anyone that well in a long time, maybe never. We just talked for the entire time straight, and it felt like it was a half hour because I was enjoying it so much.

Now there's an important thing to note here: we're both in dorms, and you have to call up a friend in another dorm to have them check you in. You can't just drop by. And I didn't want to ask her out via phone, because I hadn't even asked for her number, I only had it so I could fix her computer. Since I had one class with her on Monday, I waited to ask her until then.

So Monday comes, I ask her to dinner, and she says yes right away. No hesitation. We figure out that Thursday (today) at 7:30 is a good time, because she's going home after classes on Friday to go to her family's Superbowl party.

Then comes today. She calls me up and cancels, because she got called into work unexpectedly. Then she said that besides that, she just got out of a long-term relationship (I had no idea), and that dating probably wasn't a good idea for her right now. She said she hadn't thought enough when she said yes to me.

So I talked to her. I asked her if there might be any interest in the future, and she said she didn't know. Right there, I asked rather bluntly whether she was bullsh*tting me to try to save my feelings, because that never ends well. She assured me that she honestly didn't know, and wouldn't have said yes to a date in the first place if she didn't like me, just that things with her ex were too complicated right now.

So here I am. The really irritating thing about this whole situation is that it's really tough to casually see each other with having to check each other into our dorms, and there being nothing at all to do in this city (Milwaukee).

So here's my question (finally): how do I approach this? She said she's interested in seeing if we can just hang out next week sometime, so that's cool. But should I back away completely and just say it's a lost cause? Should I back away for just a little while? Should I just see her once or twice a week? Should I try to see her all the time? Should I ask her what her whole ex situation is so I know what I'm dealing with, or should I say nothing?

I don't normally put this much concern into a girl. I sure didn't last year. I've learned to be very much a "there are a million fish in the ocean" kinda guy. But I just have the same feeling I had when I was hanging with girl #1 freshman year (before she changed on me), and I just really feel like things would work well between me and this girl, and I don't know what the hell to do.

 

Thanks, this is the one piece of actual advice in this thread so far. What I really wanna know though is whether I should ask at all what her situation is with her ex, because if it was ugly enough I don't think I'd wanna put myself through this, so I really wanna know. But of course etiquitte and common sense tell me not to pry...

Indeed she is. Not as hot as girl #2, who caused not one but three of my friends to moan and make hip-thrusting motions when they first saw her picture. But still hot. Hotter than #1 and #3.

I just did that with #3 man. I'm not anxious about getting ass. That's not hard. I'm looking for a relationship with this girl... (and yeah, I know you were probably joking )

 

Dude, wtf are you talking about? Girl #2 was really, really hot, yes, but she was a complete biotch, which is why we were only together for a few weeks and also why she's my only ex who I'm not still friends with.

I'd say #1 and #3 were average at best, if not below... it's so true that the hotties are always the evil b****es.

I never said I "got hot ass all the time." I said that getting ass is not hard. Not hot ass, just ass. I don't know how you can argue that. It's as simple as going to a party on the weekend.

So get off my damn back. I honestly wanted advice on this.


Thanks PhiSlammaJamma, dskillz, and 3814. I'll do some hangin' with her next week and see how things go.