My wife and I have decided to get a divorce and I am ready to start the process. I don't think it will be an ugly one because we both agree on it and realize what is best. So I think we might be able to work out who gets what without having to fight about it. I was wondering if anyone has any advice for me. Anyone know of any good lawyers? I am hoping to get this done as cheap as possible so is there a cheaper way we can do it if we can work it out ourselves without having to go through a lawyer? Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Sorry to hear that, bud. I can honestly say that the last year of my life has been one of the most confusing and complicated I've ever experienced. There are times when I've felt great, liberated and happy and just as many times when I've felt exactly the opposite. No one can fully understand it until they go through it. So, best of luck. If you and your soon-to-be-ex can agree on everything amicably and you don't have children, you can do it with either a single attorney or even filing with forms on the net. I've heard of divorces that can be done using paperwork filed online that cost under $300. A single attorney probably will run you about $1500. But, you cannot do this if you have children or if ANYTHING is disputed. If either of those is the case, you'll have to do things separately.
Thanks for the advice Jeff. I never thought I would be married and divorced before I turn 27. And it sounds like I might be able to do the online way you posted because I think we can come to an agreement on everything, and we do have kids but none together. There will be several things that will need to be done like her car note is in my name and we just bought some furniture that is in both of our names. Would we need a lawyer to change all the names on stuff around? If we could do it ourselves that would make it a lot easier.
From what my attorney told me, all you have to do is make sure you specify what is hers and what is yours in the settlement. As for the car, just have the deed transferred into her name. Your kids should not be an issue since you no doubt have that covered under agreements with other people.
Sorry to hear about that...I have been divorced 1 year this month and I know what you're going thru...Jeff is right, you go through a lot of emotions and if you don't have kids, it'll be a lot easier...I can honestly say it was the best thing for us, but it was a bitter divorce and made my last spousal pmt last month so WOOHOO!!! A friend of mine is going thru one as well and initially they agreed on things, but emotions get the best of them and now they have to get separate attorneys and spend a lot of money...they have kids too... Shoot me an e-mail and I can walk you through what to look out for, but again, I had kids so some things may not apply... Keep this in mind...
Exactly. You aren't being a dick by getting an attorney. I would do that ASAP and let them handle it from day one. They will help protect your interest. Crap like that can go south VERY FAST!!! Emotions can make you do stuff that you regret later.
I think attorneys are more than that, unless you get someone on the ultra cheap. My girlfriend was a little on the expensive side when it came to attorneys, but she wanted to be safe in knowing she got what she deserved (esp. with 2 kids involved). She paid around $7,000. But I would think you could get it done for around $2,500 - $5,000.
Don't make any decisions because of guilty feelings. Don't sign anything unless your lawyer sees it first. Kids involved? Forgive me if it was mentioned, I just skimmed the posts. *edit* Document EVERYTHING, and don't give her any money/items that you expect back. Anything given is considered a gift by the courts.
