On average, how long do you guys spend in the dating phase with someone before moving into serious territory? Also, if applicable, list the minimum and/or maximum amount of time you would spend there before attempting to move up or move on. Thanks in advance for the input.
When there's only one song left in the two for one lapdance special...that's when I start to take it to the next level.
Holy cow man, that's a complicated question. For Dallas and me, we knew each other for several months before actually hooking up. And even then, we didn't call it official until a month after that. I've had a bad habit in the past of rushing into things and assuming that I was in a more serious relationship than I really was. Those ended pretty tragically (i.e. the guys cheated on me in most cases). But for the people that I knew for a while previous to hooking up, the relationships have been better than the rest. It really just depends on a whole bunch of things: How long have yall known each other? How long have yall been dating? How strongly do you feel for her AND how strongly does she feel for you? The most important thing is not to rush! If either one of you aren't ready for a serious commitment, then by all means, don't do it! Patience is a virtue - especially when it comes to people you care about. The other thing I suggest is trying to take a step back and make an objective evaluation of your situation. If you can objectively say the time is right, then go for it - the worst she can say is no. Using your head doesn't hurt - especially when you're about to make a commitment.
zup, anti. depends on where you're moving to. after that question... how long have y'all been dating? what kind of extracurricular (sp?) activities to you do (movies, sporting events, etc)? how often do you all go out together? what kind of person is she personality wise?
The funny thing about this question is that, historically, I can answer this definitively for myself. If the relationship is 0-6 weeks old, I always instigate the breakup. 6 weeks-longer, the woman instigates the breakup. So that being said... the answer is 6 weeks! Of course, you have to be dating, and not playing phone tag during the duration.
Thanks for the responses Meggo, Omega, Fatty. But more specifically, what is the longest you have spent in this Limbo stage? Just wondering if my current situation is abnormal or anything...
After finishing up your first 36 jumbo pack of raincoats, you my boy have officially moved up into serious turf.
Well, my last "boyfriend" decided he never really was my "boyfriend" in the first place - so that makes it 2 years on and off - the last time was 8 consecutive months. Other than that, I've usually made a commitment by the 3 month mark.
Don't know your situation, but I'm assuming you've put your feelings up, only to get the old "I need some time to think about what I really want" phase. If that is indeed the case, then the BEST thing you can do is to tell her that she needs to figure this out on her own. And walk away. No "I'll be here when you're ready." or any of that. I speak from experience, my friend. If you lay your feelings on the line, and she doesn't immediately reciprocate them, then you have to let her go until she finds what her true feelings are. It's a silly little trick that both sexes play, but if a woman finds out she can walk over you, then she will, and your "value" will drop exponentially.
if anyone gets betrayed really bad, here's a short movie on the best way to get revenge. There's some language and adult situations so its pg-13. http://www.milkandcookies.com/stuff/homebase.asx and as far as advice, antisonic, these days people are open enough to talk about things, second guessing is so 1990. seriously, if you can't be honest with someone both ways, then you probably won't be around them that long anyway.
I'm around 6 weeks and then it takes the girl two more weeks. So I'm usually at 2 months. It's always a funny moment for me because the girl will say something out the blue like "I'm ready." I've long forgotten the question and then I"ll say "Ready for what." And it gets all stupid after that. But it works. Reminds me of the underwear scene in Superman. "Pink". "what?" "The color of my underwear." "Oh."
That all depends on how long it takes you to use them, you could be like rabbits and use those in 2 weeks, that is a kind of short time to step it up to the next phase.
Well, I've always tended to get serious really fast. My current girl, she met the family in Vegas the third time we saw each other.
I'm sure his girl wouldn't appreciate her new pet name of, "turf". Couple that with serious, and it sounds like a safari.
