Hey, it seems it's my turn to ask for girl advice. I'm a part time intern at the state Capitol for a State Rep here. It used to just be and the chief of staff that worked here but now two new co-workers have come to fill up the remaining desks in the office. There's only one I'm interested in, and I get the sneaking suspicion she might be too. FYI I'm only 19 so this jobs not an enormous priority but it's a job I think has good oppurtunity and isn't worth potentially fubaring over a girl. Nevertheless the other conflicting half of me says to give it a shot and hopefully all will turn out well. She's a part time volunteer looking to boost up her resume for her government major so she's not getting paid and is doing this purely for a good recommendation from the Rep we work for. I am getting paid however, but I am still a college student as well. Nevertheless I question whether to pursue this girl or not and am seeking out your guidance on the matter. Any good experiences, bad experiences? I'm not sure about the policy among co-workers dating but technically she's a volunteer worker so would that even violate any office rules? Thanks in advance for any advice given
My gut reaction would be to say no, just leave well enough alone. That if she's doing this for a good recommendation from the Member, then she would be taking a real chance... not to mention yourself. Of course, the Rep. could be cool and not care... is it a Democrat? I can't be a hypocrite, however... when I was 19, if the chick was a fox and was interested, I'd go for it. If you do, be discreet!
Don't do it....under no circumstances, not even if your lofty perch with the illuminati alerts you in advance that the world as we know it is about to end, and you and this girl are locked in a stuck elevator for the rest of recorded time with Barry White playing on the speaker...even them don't do it. I am telling you, NEVER, NEVER, NEVER screw with someone who you'll have to see every day regardless of how it works out. Have had really bad experiences, with girls I worked with, lived with, etc. DON'T DO IT!!!
Uh, yeah... that's what I meant to say. What MacBeth said. (golly, you're no fun at all! It is beggin' for trouble, though)
Proceed with caution my friend. My sister did this once and ended up getting fired because she dated the lead anchor (dude on at 6 and 10 Monday thru Friday) at her former news station. She broke up with him and then 2 weeks later was mysteriously canned even though her ratings were the highest in Amarillo.
A good idea in general. I've never dated a co-worker, but I know about getting mixed up with people you're going to have to see every day for one reason or another. Bad. It takes a lot longer to recover from something bad happening when the person is always in your way. And, of course, things could get ugly. Proceed as friends... we don't want anybody to keep from getting together with their true soulmate just because they happened to work together. But be very, very careful. Don't do anything you're not prepared to deal with the consequences of.
NOOOOOOOO!!!!!! never ever date coworkers. ive done it twice and i swear that the 2nd time i learned my lesson. after a month or so it wasnt working so i broke it off, but still had to see her at work every day. it made what was once a really cool, enjoyable laidback job very uncool, unenjoyable and soapopera-like. if its a job you dont care about or if this girl just likes to "skank it" than proceed, otherwise dont even go there.
Two sentences for you, my friend, from someone who has made the mistake: Don't put your pen in the company's ink. and a bit more drastic: Don't **** where you eat. Truer words have never been spoken.
I have very few codes, ethics, or morals by which I lead my life. But the first one in my book is to NEVER date a coworker. The potential complications can effect your life, livelihood, level of happiness, and most importantly, you bank account.
Of course some rules are made to be broken, and some p*rn stars are made to be bent...over a ...ah, I'll stop right there.
Exactly. Like that Seinfeld episode, you must keep the different worlds of work, friends, love separate or else you face trouble. Especially work and love. You don't want to be uttering these words: "oh, oh, oh......You're getting a raise!"
I say don't do it. Especially since you work for one of the reps. There's nothing worse than losing that job, having to find another, and then them giving you a bad reference saying that you go after other coworkers. Not to mention, all of my experiences with workplace romance has been incredibly shortlived, and then you still have to work with the person.... which is just akward.
All your concerns are what my gut was telling me too, so I don't think I'll go any further with her. Besides there are some cuties I see all the time in my classes
No kidding. I started dating a co-worker four years ago and we're still together... Of course, I did date three other co-workers before her and none of them worked out...
