That is GOLD stuff right there. If they cheat on you, you did something wrong: you didn't leave them in time or didn't realize they were like that before they cheated on you. I'd like to add to that: You should know whom you marry so that they don't cheat on you. F*ck DIVORCE.
Which is exactly why I'm gonna marry a woman south of the border. They're more forgiving to certain indiscretions. ...and they're Catholic.
I'm often curious about how cheating occurs. I understand how one-time flings happen, kind of. I mean if people are out, possibly tipsy and someone starts being very upfront and forward with a married person, whom they didn't know was married at first, then I could see where the temptation would be there. But at some point when you are checking into a hotel room, or have to go to the other person's home, it would require you to think that you can't go to your own place because the wife is there. At that point, it seems like the breaks would be applied. But I guess I could see it happen. What I don't understand are the long term affairs. That's when it seems like someone should get out of the marriage first, or try and address the problems in the marriage that cause them to seek attention elsewhere. How do the long term affairs even start? I know they happen, and have seen them happen with family members of in-laws, and even an old ex-girlfriend who I occasionally hear updates about. I've just never known anyone well enough who's been involved in that kind of thing to ask how it started.
My guess is that a lot of affairs happen because people aren't necessarily happy with their marriage or sex life, but they have something that prevents them from wanting to get a divorce (kids? financial issues? disapproval of family? religion?).
The closest thing was making out with a girl-friend of mine while technically still in a relationship. HOWEVER, my actual girlfriend was currently cheating on me with a coworker while away in a foreign country. Not the first time she had cheated on me, either. Anyway, the point is that it was blatantly obvious that she was cheating (she was a horrible liar...and even dropped some hints that weren't so cryptic) so I knew we were done regardless. Shortly after I had made out with my girl-friend, my actual girlfriend came home for a visit and I got her to spill the beans about the new guy. It had been going on at least as long as I had suspected. Other than that, I've never even been remotely close to cheating and unless I have a drastic change of character at some point, I never will.
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I confess... I loved running around naked in my youth. There... I feel much better. If this is in question and you care for each other, you might want to have a heart to heart and get this out or break up. My wife once admitted that she had a fantasy of seeing me with another woman. I thought it was harmless, until it actually happened, but I wasn't the guy. We're separated on the path to divorce. I have forgiven her. She is happy on her own and I am happy for her. Life can appear harsh at times, but it always works out in the end if you keep the faith. I'm dating now and am having fun so screw it.
Absolutly not!!!! Anytime there's a direct exchange of money it automatically qualifies as a buisness transaction.
