I was talking to a married friend who I eat with every day and I asked him if I were female would his wife get pissed off? He said yes he couldn't eat with me if I were female. Well he could eat with me if we were in a group setting but not alone. How many of you would consider this cheating? We're talking about lunch folks with a friend.
Cheated a few times in serious relationships during high school/college years, but never once I got married. I was cheated on though, and I'm now divorced. I will never cheat again though, and I will never tolerate it again. I'd say 99.9% of the time it ends badly.
I wouldn't consider that cheating, but if that person had a history of cheating in the past it would make me pretty nervous. If not, I wouldn't have a problem with it.
That isn't cheating in my book. But like Max said, it might be a good idea in case there was going to be temptation to not even give it the opportunity to cause problems, so just don't do it. I think most people even if they are of the opposite sex are respectful of a marriage as long as you make it clear that you are happily married. Also it depends on the situation of the lunch with the co-worker. If it was lunch at work, especially if the person works in a situation where most other workers are of the opposite sex, then it wouldn't be a big deal. If it was one friend calling up a married friend of the opposite sex on a weekend, and taking that person away from their spouse to go eat lunch, then it wouldn't be cheating, but it might be an uncomfortable, and possibly improper situation. I guess it just depends on the married folks and how they feel.
Here is the thing about cheating. It feels great for the few minutes or hours it lasts, then it is horrible, and leads to dishonesty and guilt for a period of time much longer than that. Why have so much mysery for a small amount of fun. If I felt like I had to cheat, I would just tell my wife it was over, beforehand, and get divorced. I can't imagine throwing away all that we have though. That's why I said never have never will.
Exactly!!! Just because you are in a relationship, it doesn't mean you gonna stop being attracted by other female! Everyday is a fight against nature.
I agree. The majority of my friends have always been female and being maried shouldn't change that. On the other side, my wife has always had mostly male friends and I don't think I should change that. Going out to lunch/dinner/whatever with a friend should not be an issue and certainly isno't one in my marriage. I have never cheated and will not cheat. Why? Even if I knew I would never get caught I would feel too guilty. I also find it damn near impossible to lie to people with whom I am close so I can't keep anything from my wife - I could never get away with it even if I could practically speaking. That being said, I see women with whom I would like to have sex just about every day. I am male, hear me whimper.
in my case, never did, never will I believe in Karma, literally, especially stuff like this. My ex which broke up with me last year, yea we still "acted" like we were together even when she was dating other guys. But once she got in a "relationship" with another dude, i kept my distance. Now that they have broken up, I hangout with her more often. Its funny u bring this up, cause we had an argument yesterday and she says we should keep our distance, for now.... That girl has issues, but whatever. and yes, i feel that I am the guy she is using in which she is cheating with the one she's dating, even though they are not "titled" with each other. btw, this is a separate arguement, but what the hell is difference between "dating" and being "exclusive bf/gf" cause its same to me!!!
But moral is something human invented. Any alternation in history could of have changed the moral standard we have today. If any civilization that practiced polygamy dominated the world instead of the western civilization, then it would be deemed acceptable now. Many cultures practiced polygamy, many still does, does that make them any less of human?
Strip clubs are off-limits for him. I teased him and he suggested we grab lunch at the titty bar...it would be okay...look but can't touch. I turned him down cause I didn't want to be a bad influence. Plus who goes to a strip club and just looks? Come on now...COME ON! These girls need tuition money.
I think is understood on both part that dating does not involve any types of commitments. You can date several girls at the same time, and you can break up with them any time. When you are boyfriend/ girlfriend, you basically agreed to make efforts to work on that relationship.
I never cheated on girlfriends, though I was quite tempted a few times. Since marriage, I barely have enough energy for my wife and kids, much less a fling or a mistress. Plus, my wife could smell the lies on me from the second I thought about it and I fear her wrath.
well you can look at it with that rationale in 2 ways.....yours and this one...we also differ from animals in the sense that we are attracted to certain types (maybe u like blondes...i like brunettes..etc)....so that certain women will tempt you and some wont.....whereas animals will have sex with any other as long as its the opposite sex
