Tea-bagging is an art form where the girl lovingly and aggressively allows you to drop... oh wait, we're talking about watching p*rn.
First, if you didn't hide it, there wouldn't be a problem. Second, if she didn't go snooping, there wouldn't be a problem. The problem is that you feel the need to hide it and she feels the need to go looking for it. She shouldn't be invading your privacy, but you shouldn't be afraid to tell her either. Trust me, and this comes from someone who has experienced it first hand, you have to be completely honest with your partner. If you aren't this is the kind of crap you deal with. If they cannot accept you completely for who you are (assuming you aren't doing something destructive to you and/or the relationship - infideltiy, crime, addiction, etc), than it is the wrong relationship.
Let me just say that you are not the first guy who has this happen to him, and you won't be the last... best is probably to play it cool and pretend that you don't care/find it somewhat funny yourself...just laugh it off.
Yeah, the dumping comment was really just me overreacting. It's just that I'm an extremely private person and one of the major reasons I left home was because I couldn't stand my mother snooping around my room - now I have to put up with it from my girlfriend?! Yeah I know, get used to it. Oy.
She found your sizable p*rn collection and is totally okay with it? She doesn't even want you to get rid of it? She sounds like a keeper to me.
I think you have to hide stuff from your wife that you wouldn't want the public to know. There's no need for her to know everything. Just like there is no need for your children to know everything. There's no telling when a woman could turn on you. Let's say she loved you like no other. She could still go insane. And when you're running for office, that insane woman is gonna tell the world you like women in diapers who pee on you. And then your screwed. Now I'm not saying sonic likes woman in diapers who pee on him. I'm only saying if he did he ought to keep that a secret. Nobody needs to know that. Not even a wife.
My ex girlfriend found my porno collection one time and deleted it while I was sleeping. When I woke up, she had just got done deleting my Asian Teens subfolder. I tried to protest, but she threatened to delete the Lesbians folder also; she eventually let me keep it because she also got off on it more than I did, the little trollop...hmm come to think of it, maybe that's why things didn't work out