Have any of you ever had a relationship where you never really stopped caring about the person, nor did they stop caring about you? And, there were never really any "major" problems between the two of you? I broke up with my girlfriend this past week as a mutual thing, but she did initiate. It really sucks though because we were never really unhappy with each other, but in truth victims of circumstance. I feel terrible. It would make it so much better if we had already gotten over each other, or there were huge problems between us that made me feel better about moving on. There wasn't any of that though. I feel like I just lost my girlfriend and best friend. This is the one that I'll probably feel for a long time. Right now, I'm sitting here pondering just how difficult it will be for me seeing her with another guy when that time comes, because I'll feel like our story never ended the right way...
Because of my culture/religion, my parents couldn't know of our relationship. It was too much for her to handle. I couldn't tell my parents just yet because it would be too much for them to digest at this point in time. Cultural gaps are really hard to cope with. It was just too long of a wait, and not knowing my family (her being a very family oriented person) was just to hard for her to deal with...
<br> Aghh I can't imagine how any situation like this would be bearable under those circumstances. I wish you well and hope everything works out for the best bro!
How old are you bro? I ask because if your old enough then Love should conquer all and while your family might have a hard time getting over it...it is amazing how parents tend to see the happiness in there son's or daughter's eyes and forgive/forget the issue at hand.
You will get over it, everyone does after a while. You might feel sick in your stomach, but if you have to move on then you need to do it. Stop crying about it and try to do something productive.
<br> 18, I'll be 19 in a few months. It's not that I feel this was the only girl for me. Past relationships, while juvenile have all ended with mutual agreement that we didn't really care about one another anyways. It's not the same here. I just feel that there could have been so much more. Either way, perhaps it was never meant to be anyways because if it was she could have waited longer for me. I think that was probably unfair to ask though, since we are relatively young. I'm just frustrated at what having ultra conservative parents can do to you. Honestly, it isn't just as simple as tell them and they'll hate your decision, but ultimately be happy for you. It's more like their entire world would come crashing down. They would feel extremely betrayed in all aspects of their lives. It's just hard knowing that your parents most likely wont except your life decisions (not to say that something like this is my "final" decision...but still)
Are you muslim? if so i can kind of relate, since i am Persian and have had problerms like that before with my parents. I used to always be afraid to let my parents know that i am seriously dating a person and in love. They never accepted my previous girlfriends before, maybe because they just wanted me to focus on my life before i get too involved. Well i came across the perfect girl over a year ago, she is half persian half spanish. And my parents are so accepting now, they love her she is always here, and i really never thought the day would come. If that girl is the right person, you should try and tell your parents to just meet her. You never know man...
<br> Yes I am muslim, and even more so...Pakistani! That's about as conservative as you can get. You can probably also relate to the familial ties that people of eastern descent tend to have with their parents. Because of that, I just don't know if it's worth my parents being hurt that bad by my life decisions. I just don't know...??
Ya I understand, it sucks you want to make everyone happy and the pressure gets to you, well in my case it used to...I just got enough courage and strength to tell my parents that I was talking to someone that was different from anyone else and very special and asked if they would not be quick to judge...you never know man but if you don't that is also understandable..sometimes its just best to leave things they way they are..
Are you living your life just for your parents? You should've at least given them a chance with her if she was really worth it.
<br> Thanks for the advice man! I'll definitely remember all this when that day comes in the future...I think it will help me a great deal
Lots of fish in the sea right....its tough bro but I remember when I had to dump my first true love around your age and I thought the world was going to end but a year later I meet another girl that made my head spin. 3 g/fs later I fiannly decided to chill and settle down so time heals all wounds and girls help as well!
Are you a guy? If so, I know a girl named Vivi that might be available and I think she more than cares.
