...waited a week and three days. ...called girl on phone. ...girl didnt answer. ...said screw it, went to sleep. ...next day, decided to call girl again. ...i call, i let it ring 5 times. ...she picks up, sounds annoyed. (before i called i told myself, ill just ask her if she found a job yet, ill tell her im having trouble and i was wondering if she had found any place to work...) so thats basically what i say. she says shes about to leave to go to training for her new job. she tells me where shes working and what not. we discuss this slightly for a few minutes. i say ok well have fun. ..i hang up. i get really angry. instead of punching myself in the face like i usually do, i go and try to run 5 miles, but i only run 1 1/2. i go home. i have a conversation with my mother which ends with me crying. ( i dont really know why) ..the gun went off i dont know why... i go take a shower... i fall asleep. im happy i called her though. i dont think ill call her again though... she seemed disinterested and slightly annoyed and plus she definately has my stupid main phone number on her caller id now, she can call me...no more excuses. have a nice life... its amazing how a beautiful girl comes up to me starts talking to me, asks me all these damn questions. i get her damn number she gives me the right one. i call her-shes busy. i call her-she doesnt answer. i call her-shes busy, she sounds annoyed that i called. i will never ever ever ever understand girls, why didnt she just give me a fake number? back to the drawing board. back to remembering the way it used to be. confidence. impact. normal normal normal. happy.
Sorry to hear it, man. I know you were flying high when you got her number originally. Now, she pulls this crap. If she doesn't call you back, then it's her loss. Who wants to be around someone who operates like that...anyway? It's little consolation that she's good looking if she can't be courteous on the phone; not a good second impression. If she didn't want to talk at that moment, then she should have politely asked to call you back or something when she's less busy...or less angry. If it really bothers you, then you can wait a little while to see if she does call you back to apologize or talk. If not, then maybe you should call her back one more time and say, "We had a really nice conversation when we first met. At the time, I felt some chemistry and asked for your phone number which you gave me. However, I then call you up and I get the feeling your annoyed that I called. Did I do something wrong to cause this? Why did you give me your phone number in the first place if you didn't want me to call you? I'm making an effort to get to know you better and your making me feel lousy for even trying." Then, listen to her response. If she goes off, then she's obviously not for you. If she apologizes and makes a sincere effort to be nice, then maybe she was just having...err....a bad day. Surf
GREAT MAN!! F*ck the out come. . it is GREAT that you called [Waiting a week and 3 days is a bit much . . I say this because she may have been disappointed and waiting on your call and then gain a f*ck you attitude because u didn't call .. . but hey . . .i don't know the whole story] But man . .. . it was a big step to call her it was the right step DO NOT REGRET IT cause NOW u know instead of languishing in MAYBE-LAND or COULDHAVEBEENVille Rocket RIver
In the words of the great Bill McNeil: Kudos to you sir, and kudos. Man, at least you had the balls to go for it. If she wants to act that way then she's the one who is not worthy.
You finally called her, that's good. It's out of the way and there is no point in worrying about it. Now get out there and meet more people! You can't just sit back and expect something to happen after one chance encounter with a woman(even though it does happen from time to time). You're putting all of your eggs in one basket. Spread yourself around Holden. Go join a support group or something, just get out!
Just because she sounded disinterested and annoyed doesn't mean she was. I know when I had a ****ty job, I'd be annoyed nearly everytime I went ...maybe that was the case. I say try again, but this time don't let her get off the phone without asking her to go get a cup of coffee or something.
Holden, Just like anything in life, meeting girls is a contact sport, the more contact with females the higher the propensity that something good will happen. The worst thing is regrets, if you see a girl that you like, just go talk to her, who cares if she tells you to get lost?? If she doesn't than its on! The only thing you have to keep in check is your own confidence, girls hate unconfident guys. Girls seem insecure by nature and that is what leads them to their many questionable acts, yet they depend on us as their support, as a strong wall that they can lean on. Not a sensitive little ninny that is going to be emotionally hurt if he's turned down once or twice. BTW, 10 days is too long. I would wait till the first Monday or Tuesday (about 3 days) and then give a casual inner week call. If she's annoyed and you call and she barely remembers you then try once or twice again, if not ?? Who cares..there are plenty of women out and about. G' Luck!
read the words of teddy roosevelt below!! you gave it a shot...it didn't work out...oh,well..there will be another.
Congrats on the effort Holden! It's too bad it didn't work out but don't let it get ya down or anything. There are lots of pretty girls around, don't let one girl bust your confidence.
