several nights ago, i went to have a couple of drinks at a bar after getting off from work. i run into a friend that was having crazy problems with his significant other and he got kicked out the house. being a friends and a little tipsy, i did the normal... "it'll be ok." "everything will work out for the both of you." and... "if you need a place to stay for a couple of nights, you can stay at my place." well, unexpectedly the dude calls me at 9:00 the next day studdering and stuff saying that he'd like to take me up on my offer. once we hang up, i'm like "damn." i enjoy my personal time and privacy, but he's a friend so what the hell. it's been two nights that he's been over now and i'm a little annoyed already. i've cooked dinner once and he cooked the other time. he made some kinda authentic mexican dish that was pretty damn good. when he washed the dishes after i cooked, he pretty much just dips them in water and puts them in the dish drying wire thingee. now when i get a glass of water there's grease splotches on top of the water. when i eat a bowl of cereal, there's a piece of dried up pasta stuck to the bottom of the bowl from the previous night. ugh. after getting off of work and coming home last night, i noticed my dvd player was on and my secret drawer that has... ummmm... "special" dvds in it was slightly open. not cool man. i let the dude sleep in my bed and i sleep on the couch. just being nice and i want the room with the flat screen. so whenever i wake up he immediately wants to come in and shoot the schit talking about what his significant other , what he's going to do today, and just random stuff that's really too deep for the morning. i'm thinking to myself, "man... i just woke up, please stfu." i like my cup of oj and a cigarette by myself when i first wake up. and for some reason the guy lights to cough up his lungs for half a hour after waking up. argh! lozenge? when i went to go use the bathroom this morning and lifted up the toilet lid, well... i have one of those things in the tank that makes the water blue. we also had corn last night. 'nuff said. disgusting. last night and this morning... just the way that he was talking, i could tell that he was hinting at staying a tad bit longer. i really don't want to stay up late and then wake up talking about the signifcant other or wake up to corn. how do i politely make my feelings felt?
Man, that sucks. You're gonna have to just be direct with him because it sounds like he's desperate. Just be like, "I like you and all, but I really need to have my own space and I'm not looking for a room mate, so here, take this bag of corn, and return home."
i never understood why it's so hard to show a bit of respect and appreciation when someone let's you into their home for free. whenever i stay over someone's place, i always make an effort to keep everything the way it was or better. as a guest, the least you can do is clean up after yourself.
Pwned... Well, it is nice of you to do this, but I gotta say that I wouldn't do this..I like my privacy too much and I have ocd tendancies and I'd have to do everything myself, but for two, so screw that... You could ask him to leave after a week...that's plenty to get his crap together...Honestly, just tell him how it is and he'll get it...
the image of you finding a corn-ridden floater in the john and then screaming "NoooooOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!" is forever burned into my mind...
I agree. Trying to drop "hints" might make things even worse. I know it sucks for him and may strain on your friendship. But if he continues to stay it'll only make things worse. Better end it right now before you snap and say/do something you'll regret.
me too. there goes my friday But give him a big pep talk like..."go over there right now and beg for her back. You cant just quit when things get hard...etc.etc" Lay it on pretty thick. Its a deciding momemt in life, now or never, man up nancy boy...that kind of stuff. worth a shot at least.
Personally, I would always be open to letting people stay over... but then again I understand that people need their space. For example, I would not like someone staying in my room with me or something be it on the couch/floor/whatever. I need my own room. Of course he is going to want some attention of some sort, the guy is having problems. No wonder he is going to talk and talk. You just have to try and be patient - for a while. As long as you are giving him what is reasonable as a friend then that's cool. Don't let him take advantage. Is he trying to sort something out? How good a friend is he? I would at least talk to him and just tell him that you like the place a certain way. You're the boss.
damn, that sucks. He was in your secret porno hiding place and everything...does he have a job or anything, or is he at your crib all day??? The same thing happened to my cousin about a year ago. His guest had the A/C running full blast during the day. On top of that he used to sit out on the porch to smoke, leaving the door open. He was going in an out a lot...The light bill shot up pretty high. The guy threw in some money, but it wasnt nearly enough. He didnt have a job or any source of income. I dont even think he was looking for one... I believe it went on for three weeks. Eventually it got out of hand and my cousin made up some story saying he received an email from the main office of the apartment complex with a reminder that he could have guests, but he couldnt have anyone else living there. It was a little easy for him to use the excuse since he lived across from the office...His friend bought it and moved out two days later...
For future reference, never make offers like that because people will take you up on them. As for your situation now, you'll just have to be direct. If you don't want to kick him, at least tell him you don't want him going through your stuff and making a mess, I can't believe he did something like that to begin with.
This is Fricking Hilarious He probably would spend the time talking about how hudson makes him miss his girl and continue to be oblivious Rocket river
It is simple, just ask the dude how long he plans on staying. You probably should have had that conversation before he moved in, or right after. Being honest in that situation upfront can ease issues later. At this point, I would steer conversations about his woman to them getting back together or his long-term ideas on his future. He will get the hint that he is going to have to deal with his problems at home. I have to echo what others are saying, how good of a friend is this? Even my brother isn't going to be snooping around and looking at my pizorn.
Simple dimple: make a move on him. If you want to take the easy way OUT, buy gay porno and put it in your "special collection."
another good one...say you're going on vacation in a couple of days and eventually you cant stay here... or...my parents/relatives are coming to visit me.
Simple. Tell him you will be having OTHER COMPANY and you need some alone time. He will have to find someone else to mooch on . .er. . somewhere else to stay Do this like 3 nights in a row if necessary usually . .. they get the point Esp when they come by the next day all their sh*t is packed up neatly. If they ask . .just say you was cleaning up for your OTHER COMPANY if that subtle is too much . . then you bring the hammer Rocket River
