I'm just tired of wait and bar staff in restaurants that think they can cop an attitude just because they work in a restaurant. Part of your JOB is to be nice to customers!!! If you can't fulfill one of the basic requirements of the job, then you probably should find a new one. Now, I can understand if a patron is being unruly, but I have seen far too many instances where an employee will act inconvenienced at simple requests. In this case, how much harder would it have been just to say, "I'm not sure if you knew or not, but we recently raised the price of that dish to $6.99."? No attitude necessary. She could also simply add in, "Yeah, we have a lot of regulars who order that salad and were angry about the price increase, so I'm just letting everyone know about it when they order now." That being said, I would've taken the free salad to go...
You're Bennigan'z. Look it up. Or check this out and play the song. I've been listening to this song non-stop...hilarious.
When it gets to the point where we think that most negative attitudes from folks could be the result of racism (without reasonable indicators to assume otherwise) then we've got a problem. Sometimes it is, but many times it isn't. Sometimes people are just jerks, period. No matter who their audience is at the moment. Some of it comes down to giving the rest of the population the benefit of the doubt before we start presuming and silently labeling them as prejudice or bigoted. Otherwise we're just as culpable as they are: We're labeling them because we assumed they labeled us. Bottom line: Let's be reasonable. Let's not assume there's a racist behind every grassy knoll. But if we do encounter a bigot we need to handle it and keep trying to eviscerate that mindset from our society.
I'm assuming by "backtrack" you mean "apologize," or "explain herself;" and by "racism" you mean "stereotyping." I'll have to re-check my thesaurus, but I don't know if the word "some," as in "some people," is a synonym for "black," either. Two downsides to assuming or looking for racism? 1) It's exhausting, mentally when you suspect and have to prove it, and emotionally when you realize you probably can't change it. 2) It distracts you from noticing peoples' other bad qualities, which can be just as damaging (and a lot harder to effectively complain about, after the fact). Point being, it is possible for someone to still be a b-i-t-c-h without being racist, and you're probably still justified in complaining to the manager.
I get followed by store LP alot, one time in Best Buy I could overhear the employees talk about watching me. I didn't make a big deal about it because I'm not a confrontational person for the most part but I can go postal when something sets me off.
imo, you're overreacting but it's hard to know if you were right without actually being there and hearing the lady. it's very possible she would have said the same thing to a white man.
You were there and probably the best judge. I would guess race played a factor, but it is nothing I can prove.
i think it is pretty safe to say that you have never waited tables before. i think the thread starter was overreacting though - not everything is a race issue. she could have just been a b****. or you could have been over-sensitive about the tone she took with you.
Now Fatty X (or Fatty Garvey, or Gov. Fatty Wallace), you know darn well all the white boards would be in BBS or phpBB, and the black boards would be on boardhost.com, or some non-categorized, non-HTML-tagged crap like that.
everyone saying he overreacted, apparently he didn't react, only told the manager. how did he overreact
speaking of food items priced ridiculously low.... does anyone else always order the chicken fried steak and eggs for 5.99 at Dennys? It is in really small print on the menu... but comes with chicken fried steak, 2 eggs, pancakes, biscuits, it is freaking huge and less expensive than like anything on the menu
neither. you're just the typical oversensitive african-american person that pulls out the race card in any and every situation possible. "That dish isn't 4.99 anymore." lololol. OH THE OUTRAGE! WHAT A RACIST b****! get a grip buddy. the whole world isnt against you, as much as you want it to be. not to mention, since when is cheapness even a stereotype of blacks? i know y'all are stereotyped for not tipping for sh#t, but leave the whining about being victims of the cheapness stereotype to us jews please.
i would say that the overreaction is in the fact that he automatically assumes it is racially motivated and not that she was maybe just being snippy or maybe just isnt a very good people person. i wasnt there, but based on the info provided it seems that he jumped to conclusions about her motives. im not even saying he shouldnt have complained to the manager - he had every right to, but it had more to do w/ her being rude than any appearance of racial bias. either way, as the old saying goes 'dont let the bastards bring you down'!
the tone of my post did not require the tone of yours. and if the whole world was against wouldn't that would include black people? why would i want black people against me...better yet....i live in the world, am i against me too? jew? too cheap to invest more thought into your post apparently.
As words on a page its impossible to say if she was being a racist or merely an ill mannered idiot. But I suspect your instincts are right AB since you actually heard her and that was the impression you got. I sometimes go to nightclubs with my younger, more attractive friends..and I can generally tell when the staff is snubbing me because they don't think I belong there and when they are snubbing me because its their personality.
She should have defintely chosen her words better. She probaly had some customers b!tch about it earlier thus costing her tips. . Servers never ever are supposed to attempt to lower the cost of the bill their job is to sell sell sell. I doubt she was thinking damn he cant afford this lets try to get him another item. (costing her tips) So I doubt she meant anything by it shes just poorly trained or an idiot IMHO
