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[Dating/Relationships] - Casual Dating and the "Boyfriend Muscle"

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  1. Rasselas

    Rasselas Contributing Member

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    Curious if any of the single guys out there can relate to this. Or maybe it's more a New York thing?

    I just wrote this piece for New York mag - wondering if any of it translates.

    The theory: After lots of casual dating, over time, we sort of forget how to be an actual good boyfriend. We get rusty. We get really good at Dates 1, 2, and 3, but we're no longer as good at basic boyfriend stuff. I call it the "Boyfriend Muscle."

    The article sparked some interesting conversation online - thought I'd share here as well.
     
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    I assumed "Boyfriend Muscle" was something completely different.
     
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    Love Pump?
     
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    Are you a pick up artist? I need you to show me some tricks if possible
     
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    Why spend money on casual dates in an attempt to get laid?

    Just go out there and show them hoes the $$$
     
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    Sorry, I just couldn't get through it.

    But I clicked the link and gave you a hit!
     
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  9. RasaqBoi

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    Great article ! I enjoyed it.

    Shawn says it takes work to be in a relationship, and after years in his cozy bubble, he finds that work exhausting. “If I’m in a relationship and I’m committed to you, then I’m obligated to call you, and see you, and any time we go out, the pressure is on me to think of something fun to do. But I only have, like, three or four fun things to do. That’s my shtick. With a girlfriend, I can only work my shtick so far and then I’m out of ideas. Whereas if I keep recycling girls, then those three or four fun things will always be fresh.”

    Lately I feel this is me. Haha.
     
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    what does WCW mean?
     
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    Nice Article

    Rocket River
     
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    Dang Jeff, do you even lift?...:grin:

    Good right up! Totally agree, the more you practice something the better you'll get at it and the easier it becomes. By nature we are all creatures of habit, and whether it's a good or bad habit, they are often hard to break! Being in a relationship is hard work, work that in the beginning is often camouflaged by that feeling of excitement and the feeling of being "In Love", but once that feeling starts to evaporate, that hard work becomes suffocating and relentless (muscles growing pains)! It is at this point many people want to bail and look for greener pastures, but if you stick with it and your partner reciprocates the effort you put in, you'll get to a more deeper relationship, a relationship of true love where you genuinely want to put in the work to make your partner happy! There is a time for everything, and right now it looks like you want to start swimming in the deeper part of the pool. Good luck!

    I'm not that young and have been married for a vey long time so my take in this subject might seem outside the box to some of the posters in this thread.

    Chill breh's, chill!!...;)
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    Swoly is turning in his grave.
     
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    He's been buried ALIVE?...:eek:

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    Women Crush Wednesday.
     
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    Thanks kids.

    ima_drummer2k - Amazing.

    BamBam - Well said.

    RasaqBoi - yeah, I've gotten a lot of feedback from people who've said this hits painfully close to home...
     
    #17 Rasselas, Mar 6, 2015
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    I've been married for 16 years and what is this? :p
     
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    fixed
     
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    fikst?...:cool:

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