Does clutchfans count? I think it's easy to make individual friends, but to find a group of friends that you can constantly chill with is very difficult.
I find most people 'newest' friends are more internet based Facebook, BBS, etc I was curious because I just notice. . i am friendly to everyone but have little interest in dealing with them beyond the immediate situation Whether it is Work or anything else. . . . Its not that they are bad people. . .or that I am a loner but that it is just doesn't seem like it will be worth the hassle I am beginning to feel a bit anti-social [computer nerd!!! ] Need to get out there and just meet more folx I just wonder if maybe we as people need to as well We need to move beyond the step of being friendly and being FRIENDS Rocket River
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I freely admit it....I am a loner and somewhat antisocial. I have always been friendly with folks I meet, but unless I interact with them several times in a short period, I won't remember their names. The only people I consider "friends" are my old band and the people close to them that always came out to party at our shows and the people I hung with right out of high school. We are all close because of the shared experiences of running the streets and partying all the time when we were in our twenties. Those two groups total about 20 people who I still talk to often(albeit mostly online these days). I've met a few folks from league bowling that I'm very friendly with, but we next to never hang outside league. I don't let people in easily, you have to know me for a length of time before I consider you a friend, and that is really hard to do with my work and family responsibilities eating up my time, so no...I rarely make new friends. I will say tho...I have met some really awesome guys and gals from this board a few times, and I would gladly consider several of them as friends if we saw each other more than once every few years.
I was a little hesitant at first, but I've met a lot of cool and interesting friends on Adult Friend Finder.
Any ideas for ways to drop a new friend like a bad habit? Person has gone rogue and entered stage 5 stalker status. Don't want to be mean, but also don't want to hang out anymore.
This the truth for me and then some. I'll also add that I won't go out of my way to text a person that I have recently met to hangout even if its with a group of friends. Unless someone texts me to go do something I wont reach out to anyone unless its the group of friends I've had for years. I usually just text the same people over and over to go do something and always forget about the new people I meet.
I have one of those too. And it's ironic because it's one of the few friends I've even made in the last few years. She isn't being a full-on stalker yet, but is a bit stalkerish with me online (constantly posting pictures of our kids together from playdates, making up quotes that I know her three-year-old didn't really say and they always involve my son being like his "brother" and him wanting to play with him). She can be bossy and say inappropriate things. And, like my husband says, she's just weird. Now "weird", in itself, doesn't sound like a justifiable reason to drop a friend... but I don't particularly feel like hanging out with her (and he can't stand her, and I strongly dislike her husband too, etc.). But maybe I shouldn't complain about it being hard to make friends if I'm ditching the ones I've got.
I have a group of 15-20 close friends, Ive known some for 25+ years (I'm 33), most of them i've known for 10+ years. I change jobs every 5 years or so, make a few friends and a couple might stick for a while. Usually I only hang with 1-2 outside of work, tabletop gaming or NBA are the main things we have in common. I play on a work softball team and have gotten to know a few of them, but only 3 have been to my house or do i talk to outside of work really. Ive been burned by a couple "friends" in the last 10 years and that has made me salty toward trusting new people. Both people i knew for 8+ years when they went full r****d on me.
I was going to say several years, but then realized that I make new friends on a fairly regular basis playing trivia at a pub. So every year or two, more or less. I've got friends that I've been close to for over 50 years. I put up with them and they put up with me. Knowing each other so well helps a hell of a lot. I don't freak out when they say or do something that's ridiculous, and vice versa. Didn't vote in the poll since it isn't public, RR. Yeah, it's my little campaign. I think they should all be public polls. -
It's tough. I did vote wrongly in this thread. I voted all of my friends are old friends. I have made friends in the past 5 - 10 years. But it's hard. Because there are times I meet and hang out with people regularly that I'm open to be friends with, and I think they are too, but life and schedules can get in the way and we don't hang out or really keep in touch anymore. So in the end I don't really think of them as friends. I think once you're friends, it's pretty much for life.
Its kool. . . did not think about it It would be interesting to see how it breaks down by age as well I think younger folx make friends more easily To go All Sci Fi hypotetical - I wonder if you were immortal would you even bother to be friendly at all LOL Rocket River
