Are You Friends With Your Co-workers Outside of Work?

My ex-fiance cheated on me with her coworker, so I guess you can say she was friends...

 

We regularly attend musicals and other shows with a few co-workers and play golf with a few others. There are a few we always invite over when we have parties or get togethers. A co-worker's wife does some lawyering for us.

 

I don't generally hang out with my co-workers outside of work. The exception to this is becoming friends with a boss. I've advanced in a couple of jobs by cozying up to the boss and eventually getting promoted. I know that makes me a kiss-ass and is somewhat unethical but "scoreboard."

 

Not really. At my current company I've pretty much been in 3 different groups over 3.5 years.

Group 1: Many around my age, many were new to the biz just like me. Got along great with almost everyone and made at least one good friend with whom I still stay in contact, though he has left the company and moved away so we no longer hang out.

Group 2: I was the youngest by at least 20 years. Got along with everyone during working hours (as far as I could tell) but we just didn't have enough in common to warrant hanging out after work.

Group 3: Just joined in May. Many are around my age and have similar levels of experience, though most have slightly more than I do. I get along with all of them. Haven't attended a happy hour yet but I would if I was invited. However, I am only one of two males. The females are frequently talking about clothes, shopping, reality TV, etc. The other male often joins in but I have nothing to contribute to these topics.

I'm not against hanging out with coworkers in principle though, like some of you seem to be. I've yet to be burned by doing so.

 

I wonder .. . . . if this is different with women
Do they make friends in the office more than guys do

Rocket River

 

Weird. I guess I work with a pretty tight group of guys, but I semi-regularly do things with at least half of my coworkers outside of the office. A couple of guys play disc golf with me, a few completely different guys do game nights in kind of a house rotation. Sometimes we watch sports or movies together during lunch or after hours.

None of this feels forced, unwanted, or awkward, we just all get along. Not everyone goes to stuff, but I don't think there's a single guy here who I haven't done something with outside of work.

 

only 1 because she's… well think u can work out the rest

 

A few. My last job one of my coworkers is still my close friend. At my current job im pretty good friends worth 1 guy. I'll grab drinks with some of the others, but Meh don't really care for them.

 

my last job i knew the majority of the department from outside the firm before i started, they had been good friends for 10+ years.
I switched jobs working with 1 close friend, For the first 6 months just basic conversation. Joined a softball team with a few others in the dept, half of them have stuck as acquaintances, others not so much. 3-4 of them are on my FB, mainly for board game nights or other events.

 

I did when I was younger.

Now it's neighbors, parents of kid's friends, and a few long term friends from before. My social calendar is full without expanding it to others.

 

A lot of it has to do with the industry you're in as well as the department within that industry. Different types of jobs and industries attract different personalities, as well age ranges.

 

Disagree, part of gaining management's trust is Letting them get to know you as a person and actually like you. So part of that is lunches, happy hours, BBQs/Crawfish boils, sporting events and hunting trips.

When they trust you, they'll listen to what you have to say when it isn't what they want to hear. Not to mention I had the opportunity to go to a ton of Rockets games this year, including the playoffs.

Gotta get a seat at the table. If you're a member of SHRM then you definitely know all about that.

 

When I was actually in an office, I hung out with some on occasion. I didn't make it a regular practice. Some I became better friends with after they or I had moved on.

Now, I work from home and don't have a fellow employee within 150 miles. Given the choice, I will never work in an office again. I love working from home. But there are times I do miss having regular human interaction with people who are dealing with the same stuff as I am.

 

I work 1 day a week from home. It's not bad. My ideal is 2 days at home and 3 in the office. Given the choice of 5 days in office or 5 days at home, I think I'd agree with you and work from home 100%.

 

Nope, outside of the person the person that helped me get this job. I still hang out with most of my coworkers from my first job however.

 

you can only do that if you work at walmart

 

cleverly disguised thread to ask people to come see my band perform tonight,

i hang out with some, but that's because we would be friends if we met outside of work

 

Yeah, I don't either. I love my job but I typically don't like other academic types very much.

 

Just remembered. One time the receptionist from a previous job that I never talked to, ran into me randomly, got my number casually, lost her mind, and sent all kinds of x-rated texts/pics. My favorite is when she stalked me at a bar, saw me with a girl and texted, "I'll $#%* you better than she can."

You really never know people, man.