AP didn't admit he went too far, that was Rusty Hardin's statement . AP's was this: I still can't believe you're saying it's comparable between 2 adults and parents to their child. A child doesn't have the cognizant skills yet to define what's right and wrong, child discipline is a part of parenting to mold the child as they become adults. We are far removed from the notion of hitting your spouse being ok is because that's another adult, why would a grown adult be ok with violence upon them? If you want to bring up why would a kid want corporal punishment upon them, well they're kids, they don't know squat. All they know is that the spanking hurts and think twice doing that bad thing that got them the spanking in the first place. We can debate what defines child abuse but to even hint parents shouldn't be able to use corporal punishment is an encroachment to basically something is none of our business. You really don't have any business to tell parents they can't use corporal punishment on their kids, let's be clear about that. Every parent should give you the middle finger if you suggest that to them. Let parents decide that on their own, not some strangers who want to dictate how to be a parent when some don't even have kids of their own.
Oh Ok, I hadn't seen any of that. I just read the story and looked at the pictures. That seems rather severe for a four year old child.
The following are pictures of things I was punished with as a kid by my parents and one educator: Spoiler My parents owned one...this was the worst; freaking unbreakable bamboo sticks Spoiler most often used, and I love breaking them as soon as I found out that they kept ones ready for me on the fridge Spoiler This was a tool used in Dubai, when I was a kindergarten student. The Arabic teacher saw me talking to a student while she was teaching us. Two times on the left knuckles...Moved to Houston by 1st grade...lol Spoiler my mom's go-to weapon of choice. Spoiler my dad's option weapon of choice...especially if i broke the tree limbs Spoiler If my parents were too lazy to get a switch...but rarely employed. Never closed fist! Spoiler couldnt find the belt, sticks, and resorted to an electric cord/cable...maybe once or twice only. Every culture, family, parent/grandparent, and educator(only foreign now) disciplines in a way that they feel will get the attention of their child. I have had welts on my arms, legs, back, and butt. Never did I get more than 5 max, with a few times my parents hit me hard enough to break skin. I was never hit above the neck, and the hitting punishment essentially stopped once I became taller than everyone else in my family(about age 16). Basically since then(except a few times), my parents resorted to yelling at me. All that being said, the number, depth of injury, and the age of this child is why AP was reported by the physician; essentially why AP is now in trouble. Guess he was employing what he thought was an acceptable form of punishment, but its going to be hard to explain those scars/marks on a 4 year old body. Period.
Spanking (a swat or two on the butt) is entirely different than getting whipped with a switch hard enough and/or often enough to open up multiple wounds on different parts of the body.
I already said you can spank a kid without abusing him, which was my whole point. I'm referring to abusive situations. If your kid isn't responding to a simple spanking then you're doing a ****ty job as a parent. Those types of parents don't know how to build up to a spanking. It's their first option and it's so overused they have to go further for the kid to feel it, not just physically, but also emotionally.
1. Adrian Peterson isn't your mother. He's a professional athlete. Think about the size and strength difference. 2. Those who believe it is okay because your parents did it and you turn out all right. Well what if your parents also sexually abused you and you turned out great? Then it must be okay for you to do the same as your parents right? Or if your parents were physically abusing each other? Then it must be okay for you to beat on your future partners because your parents did it.
But this is it...never did I ever feel "abused"...kids my age had similar experiences, so I'd chalk that up to culture...All that being said, I'd have to say turned out ok...and I love my parents to death. And even with my childhood experiences...I just dont understand why so many marks for that 4 year old. If I was an acting physician and saw that for any of my pediatric patients, I would probably report it as well.
This is not even in the same realm of topics. Turning out ok: equals having a parent in their lives; which ironically is a huge problem for so many kids locked up in jails...Turning out ok means that their kids arent caught up in gangs, drugs or other potentially debilitating social problem. Turning out ok, means that these kids grow up to be productive members of society. People that are sexually abused, especially children NEVER ARE OK!
All kids are the same? So every parent should just follow that and all is well? That's a pretty blanket stance. You must be a child psychologist. Do you think every parent will agree with your stance? Are they fit to be parents if they disagree? Would you try to pass a law that takes away the kids from those parents that don't follow your stance? I didn't say AP spanked his kid.
Actually I've read that repeated spanking reduces gray matter in children causing all kinds of issues.
This isn't spanking. It's similar to the Pistorius verdict. Even if he did not know his wife was behind the door, he acted in a way no reasonable man would. Beating a kid negligibly, ie, not knowing the extent of injuries you're inflicting, for 40 minutes, is a plantation mentality and anyone with that needs to do hard time.
Are you saying some kids need to be abused physically and that's the only way to discipline them effectively? Of course not every parent will agree. The parents that find it easier to discipline through fear alone will hate what I said, but that doesn't justify their actions. A lot of parents aren't fit to parent, but that's life, unfortunately. It's not realistic to think you can decide who's kids to take and then figure out what to do with the kids. The good news is, those kids can often look elsewhere for guidance and role models and still be alright.
