I'm not gonna lie, I've had suicidal thoughts these past few weeks. I know it's pathetic and weak, but I can't even begin to describe what I have done for this girl. Now she is willy nilly talking to random guys. When I met her, she was a quiet shy awkward girl, but I turned her into a confident woman, which backfired on me. Back to the booze.
Man, you know she isn't worth even entertaining those thoughts. She is going a little wild right now after being in a long relationship. The best thing you can do is be happy, and even if you're hurting, at least make her think you've moved on. I can almost guarantee you that in a few months she is going to realize what she has lost, and will make an effort to reconnect with you. I have been in your shoes. It is dark now, but you won't believe how much things will turn for the better with just a little effort to dust yourself off.
She is dirty bro...... She never deserved you and she will never find someone like you again...... She is a selfish idiot who is after the wrong things and no longer deserves your love... Whatever you do don't take her back once she realizes she aint $hit...... She is dirty now bro.... She signed a contract with someone else and there is no reason for you to match.... Let her go...... She heartless bro.... Screw her <iframe width="560" height="315" src="//www.youtube.com/embed/LBTdJHkAr5A" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe>
Can attest to this. About a year ago I posted a similar "life sucks" thread and of course within 6 or 7 months she begged me to take her back, crying over the phone, WHILE she was still with the guy she left me for. All I can say now is that I'm glad I didn't. Sometimes it's good to take a step back and realize how lucky you are and focus on all the good things in your life. It'll get better bro..
That's a very tough thing to go through, OP. Believe it or not, in 6 months, you'll be wondering why you felt as bad as you feel now. Just give yourself a chance to get over her. Life is far better than the alternative.
I'd buy you a beer, bro. It hurts now but it can be much worse. A buddy of mine is going through a divorce after his wife cheated on him. They have a baby girl. Everything sucks for him.
Not worth it OP. Sometimes investments don't pay off. Cut your losses and find something new to invest in. It hurts, I know. Like taking a kick to the dick. But you're resilient...you'll bounce back better than ever.
Never should have let her take that job with the Thaddeus. Honestly the gratuitous use of the definite article should have clued you in.
Strange, this sounds exactly what I went through myself. Its been a couple of years since it happened and I've come out a lot more mature because of it... and of course, a bit jaded as well. You might think it's the end of the world but its actually an opportunity for you to go and see the world in a new light. Reconnect with friends you've lost touch with, meet new and interesting people, do stuff you couldn't do with her around. You should count yourself lucky you didn't find her out after you two got hitched, have kids, etc.
You're hitting a rough patch, but you'll realize that you're more free now than you would be if she had discovered her ugly side when you were married. There will be a part where your mind will fill in the dots about a future, and it's natural to do it. Focus on the now and what you left behind and the things you sacrificed. Get outside and connect with other people. It's not the cure, but it'll help you cope and give your mind something to work with other than what you're thinking a 100%.
