It really depends on the type of girl/woman... I've know girls that favored self-deprecating personalities over... "over-confidence"... Some level of confidence is always a plus, but to a seemingly minority of girls/women... from my personal experience... too much confidence can be quite a bit overwhelming to them and off-putting... Of course, these girls were all quite a bit insecure, and one of them was a bit mousy and had trouble making eye contact .... so, that may factor in their preference... Like all things human, there is never one thing that applies to all types...
Oh, and as far as "douche-bag jerks always get the girls" goes... I've yet to know a girl personally that goes for that type.... they're far too bright for that nonsense.... So, my advice to Manny, and others who claim this to be the gospel on women... You really should expand your circle of friends and your social horizons...
Just do what I do at church in the past when I like a girl but afraid to talk to her. I always sit behind her every time, she'll get the point eventually. Or you can ask her if you can pray for her.
Odd....I never realized my entire circle of friends and co-workers as well as myself were "jerk store" material over the past 30+ years.
christ no offence op but you're an idiot. stop putting the p***y on a pedestal Panda23 story time now, very similar thing happened to me two weeks ago, this girl out of nowhere added me on facebook, i had quite a few mutual friends so i was curious as hell as to why she added me, just started talking to her on facebook "hey, whats up, what u study, soz but do i even know you, bby do u root" eventually i found out that she was out the night before drunk with her friend and her mate had seen me in one of my lectures and wanted the pipe, bascially she told her friend she thought this dude was cute and her friend just not giving a **** added me. made sense because earlier she'd viewed my profile on linkedin, practically anti-stalking website for those who have it. i tried my luck with the one who added me but she's all, "i dont bang people who I just met" but more importantly OP, she was smitten as hell with my confidence, the banter back and forth was fun as hell and she started liking all my IG stuff (she asked what my profile was) , now I'm working on her friend who was initially dtf and we're getting drinks this weekend, she may not wanna hookup with me OP, but you can bet your ass OP that I'm gonna find out. i know its not easy, i was nervous as hell in my early teens, but they're just human beings. they eat/sleep/crave sex the way all men do, once you figure that out in you're head and become more comfortable just saying ANYTHING to girls, you should be fine
Haha, it's not always about looks. They help of course, but I've seen plenty of guys with "good looks" get stuck in the friend zone.
I agree with most of the posters. Honestly, no one is out of anyone else's league unless they just suck at life or are THAT ugly. No matter how pretty a girl is, she's a human underneath. Find a way to relate to her and you're in! Even if you only end up as friends, hey at least you have a hot girl to give you advice..or better yet hook you up with girls that she knows. It's a win-win if you just say hi for christ sake! Absolute worst-case scenario is that she gets weirded out by something you say, but even then you have some clarity...more reassuring then what f***ing Carmelo is putting us through.
i think it's got a bit to do with the first impression as well, gotta make sure you're in the "I want to sex mutumbo" zone rather than the friendzone or whatever you wanna call it girls can sense insecurity and self-pity like a shark to blood. and its the worst possible thing, OP best advice and I think it's already been said is just chatting up and saying anything that comes into your head, even if you aren't physically attracted to a girl, becomes 2nd nature then
There's this guy.... hes a rockets fan, he makes me barf but also gives me butterflies, we have that in common, which is nice. Altough he hates my favorite player....
