Why are you still married? or Why are you still in this relationship?

This times 10 for me. I could have written this out verbatim. My wife stayed with me when I was a complete jack@ss. She finally had enough and I damn near lost her, I basically hit rock bottom and decided that I wasn't happy with myself. That was almost 5 years ago and we now have our second kiddo, we are best friends and I couldn't imagine my life without her- The kids are another story!

 

I'm not saying get married young, I surely didn't. I, myself, had my first kid at around 33 and 2nd at around 35 (I think haha). I see how much my parents love playing with my kids, and they are relatively young (early 60s). It has to be the happiest I've ever seen them. I've heard from people with grandchildren that is one of the best if not the best joy a person can experience. I'm afraid of being too old to really enjoy my grandchildren's energy.

My point wasn't about being in my 50s when they graduate HS. My point was being able to truly interact with the children of my children.

 

Even though I am not married, I do find it very pleasant that people are willing to share their stories...It's refreshing seeing something different here on CFans. I spend way too much time in the GARM and Dish forums here. I'm glad to know I stopped by to read some of these stories. It gives me hope (and I know I need a LOT of hope for my potential future) and, in a way, inspires me to not give up.

 

I'm right there with you mah man...I want to be able to run around with my kids, play ball, and partake in outdoor physical activities with them. That's why I choose to get married "young" at 25. In doing so, I recognize that there is a tradeoff of which my young adult social life would be heavily impacted, but at least I have the energy to actively play with my kids right now. Another plus in starting a family young is that, it's much easier to wake up in the middle of the night to tend to your crying baby now than it would be if you were older.

There are pros and cons to getting married young vs getting married later in life. It's up to you to decide whether your time is more valuable now and "suffer" later (less patient with crying babies and kids as you get older), or sacrifice some of your time now and enjoy the fruits of your loins when you are still relatively young.

I must say, I have been lurking on CF for a long time, even way before I decided to become a member in 2010, and this is the first thread I have thoroughly enjoyed and felt the need to contribute. Keep up the great work guys.

 

I guess everyone is different. Had my kids in my 30's and have had no issues getting up with them or their activity level. If anything I am more patient in my 30's. Perhaps it is because I am in physically good shape.

As far as grand children go, no guarantees I will have any. I know I am a better father having waited.. More patient, a better man.. But to each their own.

 

I guess I'm not alone. I got married this year at 31, my wife will be 25 this year. Had a few chances to marry before her and knew they weren't right, she's the person I was meant to be with. There is absolutely no way in hell she coulda put up with me before I matured so it worked out for the best. I'm glad I waited but I am afraid of having kids late, she's in a masters program and it'll be at least 2 more years before we have kids. I want to be able to play ball with my kids and walk my girls down the aisle. Those are legit fears I have, I pray that I stay in good health and am able to do those things.
Glad to see there are still guys who cherish their wives and believe in the sanctity of marriage. My wife and I have been together for 6 years and she has put up with some of my growing pains, good thing she's the oldest young person I've ever met or I wouldn't have the joy I have today.

 

If a lease could be broken without major damage to my credit, I might have been out the door a while ago. Heres to 9 more months....

 

Back to ignore. I literally cringe when I read your posts.

 

Damn these posts make me want to get married

 

I'm glad you we're able to save your marriage! It's not easy to admit that you're the problem, but once you do and actually try working on changing your shortcomings, things tend to improve fairly quickly! Congrats on the kiddos! Try and teach them to respect their mother and you'll end up being respected by them in the process! Happy wife is a happy life!
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Am I missing something? Are all guys jackasses lol? It seems that a lot of you in here thought of yourselves as pretty ****ty person towards your significant other and now you are lucky to have her. Is it always like this?

 

Men between 16 and 30 are jackasses

 

i want a chef as a wife

 

Haha, I always held myself in a regard that whoever I was with deserved me as much as I deserved them. As if women don't f*** up just as much as men.

 

Cheaper to keep her

 

That's why having illegitimate kids while in high school is so great!

 

Thanks for announcing to the world how you react to people pointing out your mistakes.

 

i got snatched up 16 yrs old. I was 17 years old when my son was born nothing but trouble thug nasty.She changed me for my own good. Had nothing good going for me.

 

LOL @ explicitly stating an age range :grin:

Yeah, no. This is why you FAIL, sir.

 

Going to marriage counseling today...

Ask me again later lol.