I don't think it really has to be an issue. Hell women live longer than us, so there is a good chance she outlasts you anyway. The only real issue I have involves children, you better be 100% sure you are not going to want children, because you won't be getting them from her. The other issue, is that at some point you are going to look at her and think she looks old...... before you look old. If you can deal with that, I don't see an issue. It isn't like she she is 50 and you are 20.... you can relate on most subjects.
Reading the OP- it seems odd to me. But that's probably because I'm 19- so my perception of what qualifies as "old" is a bit different from most of the board. If you genuinely think she's a good fit, and you don't want kids, I'd say go for it. I know if it was a woman ten years older than me, I wouldn't think anything of it.
This is actually a myth. Hormonally, women are in their sexual prime in their early 20s. The reason women are considered to have a later sexual peak is because in past generations women did not know how to experience an orgasm until later in life. Culturally they were shamed into thinking of sex as something they weren't supposed to enjoy and most men quite frankly aren't capable of pleasuring a woman. Because of that, women just didn't enjoy sex the way men did until a later age. This has changed in recent generations with women openly experimenting and learning what they like at much younger ages.
By this age, I don't see how it matters, unless you were hoping for children. Whatever looks you and she were going to lose to age are already gone. Your life expectancy and hers will now match up about right. You both should be established by now in whatever career track you're going to have. The only wild card would be she's unlikely to have children (cheaply) at this point. The internet accepts.
With all due respect, this simply is not true. Putting aside the fact that older women are far more sexually experienced than younger women, would Time Magazine be a good enough source for you? Not a scientific journal, to be sure, but here you go, some quotes from an article worth reading, although I don't agree with everything. For example, my experience is that women who have gone through menopause don't suffer from any decrease in sexual desire. Could just be who I know, however. The Science of Cougar Sex: Why Older Women Lust A new article suggests that women are more sexually active in their middle years. The evolutionary explanation for "cougars" Spoiler Women ages 27 through 45 report not only having more sexual fantasies (and more intense sexual fantasies) than women ages 18 through 26 but also having more sex, period. And they are more willing than younger women to have casual sex, even one-night stands. In other words, despite the girls-gone-wild image of promiscuous college women, it is women in their middle years who are America's most sexually industrious. ...they found that women who had passed their peak fertility years but not quite reached menopause were the most sexually active. This age group — 27 through 45 — reported having significantly more sex than the two other age groups in the study, 18 through 26 and 46 and up. Women in their middle years were also more likely than the younger women to fantasize about someone other than their current partner. The new findings are consistent with those of an earlier Buss paper, from 2002, which found that women in their early 30s feel more lustful and report less abstinence than women in other age groups. In both studies, these findings held true for both partnered and single women, meaning that married women in their 30s and early 40s tend to have more sex than married women in their early 20s; ditto for single women. Also, whether the women were mothers didn't matter. Only age had a strong affect on women's reported sexual interest and behavior. http://content.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,2007422,00.html I ran across this bit of info and thought some might find it interesting: According to the research, people try to make love (though not always successfully) in the following unusual places: 1. in the natural reservoirs (lakes, etc.) or near them – 38% 2. in the hayloft – 29% 3. in the huts (like a small country cottage) – 18% 4. in the field or on the meadow – 14% 5. on the beach – 3% 6. in the open air during a thunderstorm – 7% 7. under the sky filled with stars – 4% 92% of the questioned people agree that the rise in adrenalin during intimate contact in such circumstances, and the spontaneity of the act raise the receptivity to sexual irritants (like dirt, sand, etc.). http://www.womanknows.com/sex-life/news/266/2/
The article isn't scientific whatsoever. Look into scientific studies on the topic. Testosterone drives sex drive for women just like men, and it is at its peak in the early 20s, declining to nearly half by 40. The myth of a woman's peak has been perpetuated since the 50s do to a study that showed older women were having more orgasms. Edit: The flaws in that article are derived from the same problem the old study did. The reasons are not biological, they are experience driven. Older women at certain points are more likely to have had good sex and are therefore more likely to want sex again. Most young girls having sex with young guys are not getting a good experience like an older woman with a seasoned male lover. It follows logically that people who are having better sex are more likely to want more sex. But, biologically speaking, women in their 20s are at their peak hormonally and any issues they may have with sex are socially or experience driven. (Read as, not comfortable with sex from a social angle or bad/mediocre experiences.)
Does it matter if the cause is biological or experiential if the result is a better sexual partner? I don't really have an opinion on the big academic debate. I'm just saying body slam is in good stead in that department.
I love older women...they don't tell, they don't smell, they don't swell and they're grateful as hell!
Not a big deal, IMO. I think that a 10-yr age gap in a relationship sits on a bell curve. The difference in activity level between a 30 & 40 year old is minimal, as it is between a 70 and 80 year old. But there is usually (not always) a significant change between the ages of 50 and 60. That might be the most difficult time to co-exist.
The point is we are moving away from that now because it was never biological to begin with. Young women of this generation are more in tune with what they want then any generation of women before them at the same age.
This explains why I have guys in their early 20s messaging me on a dating website. And here I was thinking young guys only want young women. I'll be 30 this year (don't look like it though) and I would never consider dating anyone younger than 27/28.
And those older men in the 40s need viagra to have sex while the younger ones fk like rabbits. I know plenty of older women that date younger guys. Hell my bestfriend is 28 and married a 38 yr old. She's hot and makes good money. They just had a little girl a few months ago.
I know what I have is rare but in my case (yes I'm old) post-menopause is awesome: no periods and extra hormones
