[Marriage] Prenuptial Agreements - what does CF think?

Life isn't perfect. Stuff happens. You deal with it or you die.

If money is all you care about, money is all you will have.

 

exactly, stuff happens. at least i wouldn't have lost her AND the money.

 

If money was all you cared about, you wouldn't be getting married at all.

Pre-Nups are important if you have substantially more wealth than your partner. Otherwise, you should probably avoid getting one.

 

No, it is not. Trust me, it is definitely not.

I can't 100% be for sure of what you're trying to argue here with me and other peeps, but I am more than sure that you're valuing money a lot more than a partner for life.

For one reason or another, people believe that MONEY buys them happiness, when I would disagree and would think that even the RICHEST person will be unhappy when they're alone.

 

That's the core problem here. You and other people automatically assume we don't believe in love and marriage, based on people wanting some kind of insurance for finances in case of a divorce. It just doesn't make sense, thinking pragmatic doesn't mean you are against the concept of love or lifelong marriage, it means you want to be safe in case of every possible outcome.

 

thank you! couldn't have said it better myself.

 

Just quoting a movie for dramatic effect. I don't understand why having more wealth matters. If you trust your spouse enough to marry her, you should be willing to give everything you own to her. That leads to another movie quote: do you trust your wife?

 

Casino? Or did I get the wrong movie?

 

Shawshank Redemption.

 

That's fine as long as she's your wife, but if you get divorced, you're ok with her taking a large percentage of your wealth?

 

Try your best to be the good person she once thought you were, and help her be happy and you won't have to worry about any percentage or about that "future" divorce.

I've already said that if you're that pessimistic about finding a partner for life who won't cheat on you, lie to you, or otherwise change because you didn't take the trash out or you didn't make $100k, just don't get married.

You can BELIEVE or NOT believe, but being that pessimistic and that much of a sour person on what "could happen" with someone you love doesn't make it right. You love your money more than your partner, so go ahead.

 

She can have everything if she wants in the hypothetical world where we get divorced. I will still love her unconditionally. Love has many definitions. When I say love in context of marriage, I am generally meaning the definition of love that fits the Greek word, agape, for unconditional love.

Shawshank was the "do you trust your wife" quote.

 

That's just it. If you're married, it's not just YOUR wealth anymore. It's BOTH of your wealth. So if you get divorced, it doesn't automatically go back to being your wealth again (without a pre-nup, anyway). Hence, the typical 50/50 split.

That's the leap of faith you take when you get married. Which is why you shouldn't get married just because you're horny for each other.

 

So the question has become, is love a feeling or a commitment?

 

Love is a feeling, marriage is a commitment. Two TOTALLY different things.

 

So despite a hypothetical lack of love, marriage must be kept?

 

DaF*q?!?!?!

Don't know if serious.

 

People change. The two most important things any man should do is use condoms (his own, which he disposes of) until he wants to have a child and to get a pre nup before he gets married. To not do these things is to invite financial ruin.

 

No, divorce is legal in the US.

 

Fixed. Don't marry anyone who isn't mature.