Why. Some people are more emotional than others. This guy obviously developed a bond with this woman.
You can be emotional and be a man about it. Life is too damn short to pine over someone who doesn't want to be with you. You could whine about every aspect of your life when you don't get your way. Or, you can man the **** up and move on. I prefer to be the latter.
It doesn't take a macho man get over someone after three freaking years. It also takes a special kind of pansy to go on to an internet forum to tell your sob story. Men need to act like men. The pussification of America has gone too far. You're heartbroken? Boo-hoo.
samson was betrayed by his wife? you don't think he felt heart broken after everything he went through with delilah? you don't consider him a man? get out of here.
:grin: Exactly. The way these dudes are writing threads about "heartbreak" yet they're adults and removed 10s of years from middle school... LOLers. Hahaha.
It takes such a man to post that other men aren't being real men on an internet message board. But I see someone's been drinking in the latest angry white conservative male angst du jour. Oh no, we're being wussified as a nation. Shut up, Brit Hume. You whining about that makes you look worse than a guy posting how he hasn't found someone as good as someone he's had in the past. OH NO, THE WHOLE MANLY WORLD HAS GONE TO ****.
LOL. Hey, if that's you, good for you, but why kick another guy when he's down. You'll understand when you experience it.
Maybe he HAS experienced it and is warning the OP about not being a whiny kid from grade school? So you made a mistake and let her go. So she never came back to you. So you learned your lesson. So you close that chapter in your life and continue LIVING. So you quit crying.
Did you read this thread? He is continuing his life. But he misses what he had. Big whoop. He's a whiny grade school kid because of that? We got some mans man playa's up in here.
This is definitely something that I've thought about. The idea, the "myth" of what I had. And the worst thing is that it grows with everyday passing by. You forget the things that made the relationship bad and glorify what probably was just something normal. The lines between the reality is getting more and more blurry. It creates a myth. As to the "Man up" comments. I totally see what you are going for, I too used to think like that when my friends would tell me sob stories or I would read about them. I would tell them they were p*****s and needed to move on and just forget about it. Well you don't just "forget about it" by switching a light off. I felt like that because I didn't understand what they where going through, because I had never experienced it. I don't know if you have because I don't know you, but it doesn't seem like it. And this saddens me because it shows that you probably have never lived like I have. Heartbreak is the risk that comes with love, and I'll definitely feel "sob" sometimes like I do in exchange for it. I'll definitely be that-guy-who-posted-one-thread-on-a-forum-one-day-in-his-25.500-day-life. And rather than "manning up" and not think of it, I prefer to confront my problems and speak about them. And I think that shows more manliness than keeping it all hidden inside and crying yourself to sleep when no one is watching because your too much of a "man" to express how you feel. But then again, you could also not post and waste your own time.
You will probably not love someone as much as you did her but you gotta move on. You messed up by giving her 100% of your heart and climbing the highest mountain like 'HMMM" said. Always save something for the future, never give a lady 100% of your heart from the get go. Let her earn it through out the years and slowly open your heart to her. Learn from it we are all human, now man up and go hit an azn spa.
Actually Clint Eastwood coined the term pussification I believe. Me thinking that someone shouldn't be whining three years after having their heart broken has nothing to do with being conservative - and everything to do with living life. Also, who the hell is Brit Hume? Life is too damn short to feel sorry for yourself and to think about the what ifs, and the might ofs and the could have beens. Apparently he's been down for three freaking years, and he needs to be snapped out of it. He needs his best friend to slap the **** out of him and tell him to move on. His friends have failed him. I have a friend who called me threatening suicide after his fiance left him. I went to his house and told him to man up, and to get dressed. We went to the bar and the rest his history.
He isn't moving on, he is coping. You can't move on with one foot stuck in the past. And yes, I've loved and lost - I just chose to let myself define me, and not my past.
Or you can stop being an ******* and let people live their lives. Lol. Telling someone to stop being a b**** isn't really effective. Some people bottle it in and suffer silently (me). Some people are completely open about it and cry openly (not me). I get over **** within days. Some people take weeks. Some people might take years. You're right, to an extent, three years is too long but as OP stated its not depression. Dude just thinks about her when she gets brought up randomly. I do that too. Doesn't mean we're bent up about it.
I think it can be. I think "getting over stuff" a lot of the times comes from those who care and love for you being there for you, and sometimes them slapping you out of it. I'm no psychologist - but if he is still trying to get over her after three years, he needs to try something else... what he's been doing obviously isn't working. It is all a mindset. You can do anything you put your mind to, including getting over losing the love of your life.
Sounds like you completely misunderstood his original post. For one thing, nowhere did he say he's been down for three years or that he feels sorry for himself. There is nothing "unmanly" about expressing one's thoughts. In fact, I would be more likely to assume that one has deep-seeded issues if they have to continue to use terms like "man up" when a male expresses thoughts and emotions that don't fit into some sort of stereotypical line of thinking that one might want every man to prescribe to. The biggest question is what in the world does it matter to you if the OP, even after having other serious relationships and casual hookups, wonders if "the one" got away? How does that affect your "manliness"? Here's a hint: it doesn't. And if it bothers you so much that the OP has this question, you might want to take a look in the mirror and ask yourself why. If a woman doesn't want to do dishes, do you tell her to "woman up"? Actually, that's probably a yes. That's great. Glad your friend didn't off himself over a girl, but don't act like you saying "man up" took the barrell of a gun out of his mouth and fixed him forever. Pretty sure your friend wasn't going to kill himself if a "man up" and a trip to the bar was all it took to change his mind.
