Pure BS, almost all of the people in this thread that are against spanking were subjected to it. how do you explain that. probably with more BS.
The real problem with spanking is not the spanking itself. It is when it happens. Parents just arent consistent with it. You let your kid get away with crap and spanking really only comes to mind when you are frustrated' typically from things other than your child's behavior. In other words, some people just take out their own frustrations on their kid. So a kid can do the same behavior constantly and if he does it at a time where you are having a bad day, you will just sort of take it out on them. At the same time, I think some type of punishment is needed and not just a "time-out".
Speak for yourself. There are plenty of parents that use it without resorting to it immediately after a child misbehaves or does not listen. My mother for example would do what you just described, on a daily basis. I on the other hand would never treat my child that way just because I've had a horrible day or feel like taking my frustrations out on someone with less power or say-so than me.
I was spanked twice in my life, which I provoked my parents into doing it since I called bluff when they said they'll spank me if I keep misbehaving. Typical disobedient 7 year old stuff. But my parents instilled a moral compass in me that to this day, I should strive to be a better human being. There's a fine line between "spanking" and "abusing" which I think always seems to cross paths with one another when the subject of "spanking" is brought up.
I don't think it works, so I don't think I'll do it. It didn't work on me as a kid, just made me really scared, didn't teach me what I was doing wrong
Thank you, sir. Like Donny said, there are unintended consequences of spanking and well...not spanking. Some good, some bad. Hopefully, we can all learn from our experiences and raise our kids as best as possible.
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Growing up, if I did something wrong my dad would have me sit at the table with him. He'd offer me a cookie and we'd talk it out. Even at a very early age this instilled a genuine emotion in me that I wouldn't have had through force. I learned through reason the meaning of respect and I was obedient as I didn't want to upset my family. It was more about respect and mutual understanding, than of brute force with very little emotional or logical value. My parents hitting me would probably breach that trust and just make me an angry human being. I digress, my bro and I turned out great.
Congrats to your Dad since he got a good kid. Not everyone is so lucky thus there are different ways of handling them.
My parents never really spanked me and i was a disrespectful little turd... i will definitely discipline my children more than i was disciplined. the main reason they never spanked me is because they both had abusive parents so they never wanted to hit their children... but i was young and didn't care so i was very rude to them at times, but if my child said some of the things i have told my parents i would smack the spit out of them.
Spankings are for the lazy parents I can be ignorant at time but this posting is the most ignorant **** I have ever seen. Spoiler or no spoiler. Kids that grow up with out a whooping grow up to be criminals. You sir are an ass. I've spanked my children maybe twice, which I hated and regret and they are no where near your criminal mark. Who grows up to be criminals are the way they are raised. If you live in the ghetto and raise your child by that life style then guess what? That is how they will grow up. They become what they know. Spankings are for the lazy parents, plain and simple.
There is a difference between teaching whats right and wrong and starting it at a young age and spanking....
Unfortunately many parents don't know the difference between abuse and discipline. Thankfully my parents did, and the results were spectacular. Spanking: - Should never be the first resort, rather almost always the last - Should not be random or off the cuff - Should NEVER be done in anger, or in the heat of the moment - Should always be deliberately scheduled, with a clear message communicated to the child about what they have done wrong, and why they are being punished. To this day I remember the spanking from my parents that made me quit messing around in the music room and focus on my classes. To this day I love music and have become a pretty good musician, but unlike many of my musician friends, I also have an engineering job that I love doing and I'm great at, and I don't need gigs here and there to pay my bills -- I can just do what I love when I want. But had my parents not set me straight that painful day, and a few other occasions, I would not be half the man I am today. A simple way to put it: if you're spanking your kid every other day for every little misdemeanor, you're doing it quite wrong.
I knew what was wrong but when you are a teenager you don't really care about all that... I'm not saying you should hit your kid every time it does something wrong, but they have to know that there are lines, and when you cross them, there are consequences. I agree with what JeopardE
