Some people claim that it is abusive, while others feel it is a good method to deter bad behavior. Apparently some people believe that children that are spanked grow up to be abusive. What do you guys feel? I included four options, two general yes and no's, with an additional set indicating if you feel this generation is being sheltered, along with if you feel it is abusive. Elaborate if you can.
I don't plan on spanking my future children. But, I don't think it is abusive, it's just not what I prefer.
Absolutely but it will be a last resort. All children are different and my experience with it allowed me to think about it for a long time. The older I've become to more I won't rule it out.
No. I was spanked until about the age of 14. I also lived under strict rules like no TV past 6 pm even in HS. I wasn't allowed to play sports for my schools either. All this did was make me want to GTFO of my house. I graduated HS in 3 years at 16...started college at a fresh 17, which is something I would never recommend for anyone. Long story short, there are way better methods of disciplining your children. The worst is when you see people (mostly hoodie) hitting their chirin in public. It makes me cringe.
You gotta whoop your kids. Kids that don't get a good whoopin' every now and then grow up to be criminals. Corporal punishment instills discipline at a young age, because once you get older, it's not a simple as a slap on the butt. You go to jail if you mess up in the real world. Your butt would much rather prefer a spanking or two when you're little, as opposed to what might happen to it up in the pen. Spoiler INB4 people who freak out about beating your kids. I understand it's not for everyone. Nor do I think it's appropriate to really use force. It's all about scare tactics. Don't tell me you've never seen a kid get a spanking, then 30 seconds later be laughing.
I spanked my oldest and it is one of the things that I truly regret in life. I stopped doing it about 10 years ago and I will never hit a child ever again. It makes me absolutely ill to my core to even think about it.
that's crazy. I'm sorry to hear that. I think most people, when they think of spanking a child, imagine only doing it up to maybe the kids is 4 or 5...at the most. 14 though? damn. I think my mom tried to spank me once when I was 12, and I reached up and grabbed her arm, and looked her directly in the eye and said "no." never happened again.
If I were your dad and saw you grab my wife I would have slapped the **** out of you. I do agree that once you get in the teens it's just weird.
Wow. All I did was raise my voice at my mother when I was 17 and my dad literally picked me up off my feet and held me against the door in my room. If I would have laid a hand on her I have a feeling I would be dead and he would be in prison
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I do believe it's necessary sometimes, but more of a last resort. There are times when you just need to establish boundaries and obedience above all else at a young age, and if you're too soft for too long and they're not responding to other means, they can start to think they can get away with whatever they want to do. Having said that, I think that with most children if you do a good job with structure and positive reinforcement, you don't often need to resort to spankings. I can probably count the number of times I've spanked my 7 year old son, and I don't think I've ever spanked my 4 year old daughter.
Yes. It is very effective. Treating young children like adults is not effective. Of course each child is different. My oldest and youngest have to be handled entirely different to get the desired results.
hell the high school I went to gave students spankings. No parental notification needed. (or you could take a demerit, but most people just chose the pop)
My mom tried to slap me when I was a teenager. I grabbed her arm before she could connect. My parents had recently divorced, so there was no one to come after me, though that would have just caused more problems if he had been there. Being a teenager sucks. Totally don't look forward to my kids getting there.
You only have to spank your kids twice. Once to let know that you will do it, and the second to remind them that you will do it again.
it's not like hit my mother. I literally just raised my arm, and with an open hand intercept my mother's arm at the point of meeting my palm with her inner forearm. I know better than to lay a hand on my mother. that would just be horrible.
not sure if you're being facetious or not, but speaking as someone who was intensely and chronically verbally-abused throughout childhood, I can assure everyone that it is not the way to go. took me years to get over it. caused my father to divorce my mother, and my brother (whom now is in college) is still not 100%. I wish my mother had spanked at me more, and yelled at me less.
