There are several verses in the Bible that state that God will not allow one to inherit the kingdom of Heaven if we hate others; that if we cannot forgive others He will not forgive us. That is a very general paraphrase. My question is how can someone overcome a strong hatred/loathe that he or she has for another? Especially If that hate is so ridiculously strong and binding. To be honest, this is something I have been thinking about for a long time when it comes to the question of afterlife and salvation. This is not to place to bash believers in a higher power or to say "you're wrong." So this question is mainly posed to believers.
If you don't want to hate someone, you should probably start by not putting so much faith in religious texts. They practically all teach you discriminate by constantly dividing people into groups.
Negative. I see where you're coming from, but dividing people into groups is not solely based on religious texts. People in general do a damn good job at doing this, nonreligious individuals included. Racial divisions/sexual preference divisions/political divisions/class/wealth divisions, etc.
Just put him and his golden dildo on your ignore list, brah. But seriously, try to distance yourself from the person. Try to think from that person's perspective and why he/she committed the action that hurt you. But really, I have no clue; I've never hated anyone that strongly. Also, don't understand why you only want people of faith to respond to your questions. Nonbelievers forgive people all the time and do it for completely genuine reasons.
I'm a believer, but I do think my peers are way more judgmental and intolerant than non-believers. It often feels like "believers" (since we're using that word) place themselves of an imaginary pedestal when comparing themselves against those without religious faith. Anyway, to answer your question: The only way you can learn to not "hate" someone is to analyze yourself and why anyone could make you feel such a strong emotion. Hate comes from within and is normally the emotion for something else bothering you. If you don't have time for all of that, just ignore the heck out of them
Get to know or understand them or their perspective a little better. That will compartmentalize their slights towards you, and provide a road map for garnering better treatment from them going forward. Although, you may just assume they respect you less than others and grow to resent them more.
As a believer, I can say that you cannot stop hating others. Human nature is to hate your enemies. The only way to stop hating, or should I say, be at peace with your Creator, is to take on a new nature. Unless a real spiritual work has taken root, you will never take on a new nature. It is just not possible. Religion was invented to deceive men into creating gods for themselves. Man invites a false god to manipulate their own ideas/attitudes, whether they be intellectually or emotionally driven, and then praise their 'god' once these ideas/attitudes have been fashioned into weapons of war. These weapons then defeat any hope for transparency and geniune seeking of truth. OP, this perfectly describes the attributes of modern day Christianity, Islam, Judaism, Hinduism, and all other world religious systems. In the end, these religions assume a fake spirituality rooted in empty doctrine and sophisticated emotionalism. But feelings are fleeting, and the heart is deceitful and desperately wicked above all things. And so, this same heart will go on hating other men (privately, even) as long as it beats and gets what it desires. But a new heart will love men, while hating the works of this world. And a new nature (being a new man) will know and understand his true enemy. His weapons no longer being carnal, are now spiritual and have no desire or aim to destroy men. Being spiritual, these weapons speak truth to set men free while pulling down dark spiritual forces that reign over this dying world. If you are talking about the kingdom, then you are talking about spiritual things. For any real understanding to take place, you must first have knowledge brought by faith. This is the means to wisdom, and there is no other way. Peace must begin from within. Spoiler I believe you know where to get the answers you seek. Hint: it's not on an internet message board.
Think about hatred and it's negative effects on you. It's stressful to hate, you feel tension and it makes you feel bad. Consider it something to avoid like any other bad habit. It takes practice just like anything else. Your hatred of someone takes more out of you than it affects them. You're only hurting yourself.
I think Jesus himself might have given you a clue when he said, ""Love your enemies, and bless those that curse you."
"Hey gais, I really hate this one person, but the book I believe in, written by dudes in a cave a couple thousand years ago with essentially no understanding of what the world is or how it works, tells me that I'll never get into a magical cloud palace unless I can get over the very normal human impulse to despise someone for being a douchebag. I also don't want the opinions of people who don't believe as I do, because my god taught me to be tolerant, and I can't tolerate those people. Please help me, Rockets fans!" This is one of the dumbest posts I've seen in the D&D, and bigotexxx posts here a lot.
