Wait!...you don't even like it privately? IMO, you should dump him, because you are obviously not that into him. I say this on the presumption that you two have had sex already.
Because the way you explained it didn't make sense to me. It sounds like you're just feeling overwhelmed by him trying to be physical too soon in the relationship. How long have you been seeing him? Personally, i just back off initially. I think it's safer to assume she doesn't want me all over her right away, unless, it's just about hooking up. So, this could be a red flag for you indicating he doesn't want anything too serious.
Not that long. It surprised me because in every other way he is the most respectful man Ive met. We have talked about what we want, we both are looking for a serious relationship and are ready for marriage.
There's three types of guys: -Those that always operate 100 mph. -Those that don't know how to operate. -Those who know when and how to operate. I find it odd that he's that respectful and looking for something serious, but yet can't read your signals saying you want him to slow down. Any guy who's that respectful would know to back off, initially. I would say, either your signals aren't clear enough, or he's the first type trying to act like the third type. He could be "tryin' to act right" just to get in your pants. just my opinion though..
It is definitely strange. I have decided to talk to him about it, and only time will tell. Thanks for your input!
Be careful how you tell him. The guys that are all about the PDA are usually the insecure ones. The couples that make out in the gym are the worst.
When he tries to kiss you, raise your hand to his face, catch his forehead in your open palm, and slowly push him away, while saying "PAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAYCE".
I was wondering that, that's was my follow up question. He has nothing to be insecure about though. Are any of you men on here like that? Like PDA and see nothing wrong with it?
I would think there are insecure AND extremely secure guys who love PDA, but for different reasons. One wants to continually verify you're still into him and the other does it because he thinks you find him irresistible.
If you aren't dying to have him touch you and kiss you, I question whether it is really true love. If the guy is in love with you, he doesn't care about PDA, he just wants to kiss you really badly, public or not. He probably isn't even thinking about whether you guys are seen or not. Take care of your man If he is taking care of you!
Seriously though, have you ever heard of "The Five Love Languages"? http://marriage.about.com/cs/communicationkeys/a/lovelanguage.htm If this is to last with you and he, you'll both likely need to adjust to each other. Obviously, he is very heavy when it comes to his expression of feelings in one particular 'language' ~physical touch~ at this point in the relationship. Personally, I'm more of a words/quality time/acts of service type and have to remind myself of the other two from time to time. You're likely not one to respond to physical touch while he is. Or, a previous person he was with responded in such a way that he's conditioned to be that way now.
