lol at anything more than a month It's perfectly fine to ask her out once they are separated but still married.
I don't know about marriage specifically, but I was told by a person who had studied psychology & relationships that a person is usually over their prior and mentally ready for another relationship either 18 months or half the time they were in their last relationship--whichever shorter. So I guess if you don't want to be a rebound, better to be patient depending on how long they had been with the person---unless they mentally checked out much earlier in the relationship.
It depends. Some marriages end in nasty divorces that are very long, contracted legal battles where the person does not have time for you. Some end with both parting amicably, and she is ready to find someone new already. Then there is the issue of children and her career/finances, etc. Evaluate the situation, and make your move. There are plenty of pretty and intelligent women out there so focusing on a recently-divorced one may not be an optimal choice.
That probably depends more on the circumstances of the break up. I'll need more details and pictures to give you a more accurate time frame.
Details are, she broke up and moved out earlier this year. Changed her status on Facebook which she uses a lot. Heard it from a friend but don't know the details. She is awesome, would have asked her out a long time ago if she weren't married. She pretty much checks all of my wants and I'm very picky. She's one of those people that just makes you feel special being around her. Really don't want to get in there too early or **** it up clutchfans style. What I know of her marriage, she always gave the impression that it was great but I could tell it was off somehow. Her husband was a cop who worked a lot of overtime. Her job was odd hours so they didn't see each other much. They have teenage kids so she's always running errands for stuff, soccer, softball, etc. She also likes to go out with her sister who is kind of a drunk and I don't think he cared for that. I got the impression that he roughed her up. She never came out and said that but I always got that feeling. Of course she is very flirty and friendly so maybe there was cheating involved, I'm not sure. Pretty surprised they broke up though. Didn't see it coming or why would have stayed more in touch with her, haha.
There are several factors: 1. If you are/were friends with the husband, it's never going to be 100% okay. Asking her out is the end of your friendship with him. If you are NOT friends with the husband, proceed to step 2. 2. If you just want to get a little freak on with his ex, I'd say jump in asap. Maybe 30-60 days, then ask her out. Offer it as an escape from all she's had to deal with, etc. Tell her, "No pressure, just two friends hangin' out and having fun." She will probably have a few wild oats to sow. Offer your services in this regard. 3. If you want an actual relationship with this woman, you'll need to tread very carefully. And you'll need to be ready for the fact that she's going to meet a few guys from step #2 above BEFORE she's ready to recommit to anyone. I'd say 3-6 months is the time-frame to start positioning yourself as the next boyfriend. As others have said, the manner of divorce (amicable vs contentious), reason for divorce (emotional issues? financial? infidelity? drug use?), and the family status (are there kids? who has custody? does the ex get visitation?) are HUGE factors that can delay her availability.
