[breakup advice] ended a two year old relationship

I think your bigger problem is that you have no friends. That sucks bro

 

brazil

 

Better situation than falling in love with a woman with a woman who has some form of chronic infection(stink) in her vagina. sigh.........

 

If you're in college, the last thing you need is a girl with kids.

Anyways all the rave in the other threads is "tinder" do that. It's like a pimp, on your phone.

 

It gets better. After a 2 year relationship it's going to take a while to get over it. Whatever you do, cut off communication. If you stay talking to her, you will never get over her.

 

The best way to get over a girl is with another girl.

 

Motherf-cker!

 

Then try 2 more times

 

Don't listen to these people just telling you to "move on". It's not as easy as that, I know. Love is love, and the fact is, the chemicals in your head are still probably going crazy. You can't just force yourself to stop loving someone.

However, look at this way. You did something very uncommon and something that is very hard to do. While you were in love with this woman, you made a rational analysis of the relationship and realized that you could never make it work with a woman who has children. As a result, you ended it. Most people would be blinded by love and make bad decisions because of it, potentially ruining their own lives and the lives of their significant other as well.

You might think you made a mistake now, but that's just cause of the chemicals, because of the "love". In time, whether it's months, or (hopefully not) years, you'll be able to look back on this and realize that you did what was best for both of you. If you can't handle children, then don't. Good on you for making the ultimately right choice.

 

Kids are part of the package. Not buying in 100% isn't fair to them, the other parent or even yourself, because there is a lot of upside to kids.

100% truth here. I think there are perfect personality matches out there, but there are still millions of choices.

Bottom line: suck it up, end it or don't. You should just get some random hookups off of craigslist. The girls may not be pretty or skinny but you're going to forget your ex for a bit and it will help your confidence.

 

Quit making excuses dude. You said yourself you lied to put it off for 2 years. You don't love her, you just loved the imaginary version of her where she doesn't have a previous marriage and two kids. That person doesn't exist.

I know it's going to be difficult for you, but it's going to be more difficult for her because she probably thought that her patience would pay off at some point so she let herself get closer and closer to you. Now on top of not having her kids half the time, she's getting over this thing. I hope she's ok, and I hope you have the good sense to leave her the F alone UNLESS you are fully committed to being with a woman who has two kids. You can't sway back and forth on this, because it affects her and she has enough on her plate already.

IMO you should apologize to her, and try to get your mind right before thinking about this again. It's too difficult to have sound judgement when you're getting over this.

 

U feel bad because you we're mean to her at the end not because u broke up with her. Forgive yourself, stand by your decision (man up) and grow up.
You'll be aight.

 

Were mean to her. Spell check got me.

 

If you never attempted to meet her kids then you truly don't know her like you're claiming too.

Your experience w kids is a creampuff excuse.

Move on.

 

You want me to bump someone off?

 

2-years with her, knowing she had kids..you fall I love with her not realizing that part of her is her children. You weren't in love with her because if you were, you wouldn't have gone that long without wanting to be a part of her life 100%. Everyone has 0 experience with kids at some point. That's just a p***y excuse to make yourself feel better about it.