Trauma is necessary for growth. If they continuously shelter them from the elements, there is no growth. Only delusion. I'm dealing with a 5 year old who questions the various women (all jaw droppingly beautiful) she see's me with, and I have no reservations about being absolutely honest with her. Girls like some men more. A LOT more. And they don't mind being on the side girls to the champ instead of worshiped by a role player. Apparently it doesn't fit her disney theme or whatever childish propaganda the media is feeding her and she has discontinued speaking with me.
We were on shaky grounds but there was an argument today that was the last straw in the Camel's back. She's actually a sweetheart but can only put up so much of a fight against Disney and other conglomerates that poison the minds of children with this false, idealistic notion of what life is. I know a lot of posters here buy into it so I'm asking ... in the long run, how does coddling and building a false world help?
I agree that kids shouldn't be coddled, but at what age you start opening their eyes to the real world is open to interpretation. I'm going to try to keep my kids "children" for as long as I can. Not shelter them per se, but let them keep their innocence for as long as possible. They have their whole lives to see how messed up other people are...don't need to introduce them to that too soon IMO.
Between this and the Tantric Sex thread, I'm guessing Honey Bear should probably be reported to the authorities. Sick ****.
Everything isn't simple enough to boil down to daddy issues and who was loved how much as a child. Different people want different things out of life and tbh, I've never been attracted to girls with daddy issues because they come off as just that - girls. But this thread is about the children.
This is an excellent post, because -It is on topic -Succinct -To the point -Offering a personal experience You're already ahead of 95% of the other posters in this thread. I think a lot of people see a swimming pool and get lessons for their kids, buy floaties, tubes, all that. But that's a boring approach. I prefer throwing the kid right in. You don't like heights, don't try being a giraffe.
You have your 5-year-old stop talking to you, and it's her fault, or Disney's fault? And you are giving parenting lessons to others?
She's FIVE, is it so wrong for her to believe at this point that there is happily ever after and that there is one person out there for her to be happy with? I think you need to think about how quickly children are forced to deal with adult situations in this freaky world we live in. Did you tell her there's no Santa and that the Easter Bunny is a fake as well?? Come on. sigh, sometimes I get really sad reading some of these posts.
The thing is, I am the happily ever after. I've thrived with my lifestyle but it doesnt fit the Disney definition of love, so she doesn't find it happy. These are the same kind of kids who grow up, get married right out of college and find solace in their numbness, only for their world to be flipped upside down when they're forced out of what they're told happiness is. I treat all my women like princesses, and that's why they come back. They all have the option of being in a 1v1, but happiness has no definition and can be where you least expect it. And that's where my issue is with Disney and kids. I have a far less cynical lifestyle than the Disney model encouraging ignorance. BTW, it's not my daughter.
