Now that is being unfair to the wife. We have no idea of how good or bad of a stay at home parent she would be. A degree is not a waste of money. Valuable life experience, and perhaps something you would use later in life.
Where the hell does she get off having this attitude? You're in a partnership and none of this crap is defined. If she doesn't want to work and you're cool with it, make adjustments to your spending habits and lifestyle to make it work. Otherwise, screw that noise. Freaking entitled, spoiled-ass American female attitude. They want their cake and they want to eat it too. Here's some real advice. Put all of your cards on the table, clarify expectations and come to a compromise. If you can't do that together, get a marriage counselor. If that doesn't work, kick her ass to the curb and see how much she likes it solo. I bet she'll be back with you in a week. No one deserves to live in a passive-aggressive, angry relationship with their SO. It's bad for you, bad for her and bad for the kid.
Huh? I didn't say anything negative about women that stay home and make sure their kids are raised "properly." But you on the other hand insinuated that children that aren't watched all day by their mothers are not raised properly. Kids do go off to school the last time I checked so it's not really a big deal. You see your kids at 5 instead of 3. BFD.
Teachers aren't underpaid since there is such a big pool of people who are qualified to teach. Barriers to entry into the field are very low. AND there is a big group of people willing to take the job for low wages, many of whom just love teaching. That's a recipe for low wages.
Im not at the ballin stage yet, haha, but wifey does very well for herself...she's been doing commercial real estate for JP Morgan for almost 11 years now.
No wife, but a girl I've been with for over 2 years now and we split a lot of things financially, however we don't share any bank accounts or anything like that. Anyway, I make about 25% more than she does, but we are both just graduated in December so still at entry level in our profession. Obviously we don't have a kid in the equation as you do so we don't have the issues you do. However, before we end up starting a family together we for sure need to talk about this since she grew up with a stay at home mom, while I grew up with my mom working a 9-5 job. Personally, I don't believe it is really fair to put the entire financial burden on to one person in the relationship. This only creates added stress for this person and any time you feel tight on money then it will only make that person feel inadequate. I also don't think it is wise on top of that because you never know what is going to happen with your company. My significant and I both work for large oil & gas companies and hers just had massive layoffs (800 in one day, 1200 over the month) including a couple of people from the group she works in, thanfully she is safe. If you rely on only one income, and then that income suddenly stops it is going to create huge problems for the entire family.
Severe shortage of teachers in the wonderful paradise of Hawaii. Teacher to student ratio is getting ridiculous in Texas alone. Good teachers are in demand.
Before little rimrockers came along, Mrs. rimrocker made more than me. She is also much smarter and talented than I am. No reason for anyone to feel anything but pride is your spouse is successful.
I understand the model, but it doesn't correlate. There's lots of unseen things that go into teaching. I have watched my wife give everything she had into her students. She was rewarded with a teacher of the year. It still didn't way out. Her being underpaid is just MY opinion of what she dedicated herself to.
This is completely incorrect. There is NOT a large pool of qualified teachers, there is simply such a significant need for teachers that they're employers (government) are forced to accept poor quality/performance. There is also little to no merit incentives in the field. This leads to poorer performance overall as folks that were led to teaching as a last resort saturate the field while the more noble and intelligent educators are few and far between. This same phenomenon can be seen in police officers and fire fighters.
Unlike your wife... who is stuck in the kitchen making you sandwiches -- or is she even qualified to teach [side-note] does she speak English?
