She probably wouldn't be bullied if she wasn't so fat. Real talk. Kid should have wished for GTA V for Christmas instead.
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Let's all take a minute to thank "zero tolerance rules" at our schools, which basically institutionalized bullying and protected bullies from any kind of repercussion, for this. If you're not familiar with "zero tolerance rules", they basically say that if 2 people are involved in an altercation, both people will be punished regardless of who instigated it/who was defending himself. What drives me even more crazy are those new hip "anti-bullying movements" like the "it will get better!" crap. No, it won't get better just because you said "it gets better". We had a little "bullying in America" seminar at my medical school earlier this year where this stupid lady whose son was bullied and this hack with a psychology PhD were promoting this program they launched. It basically says that the bully shouldn't be blamed for the bullying, it's the "system" and "enablers" that are to blame, which is basically the newest PC crap to say whenever a real problem needs a solution. No, blaming the bully and holding him responsible is exactly what we need to do, not assign blame to some abstract "system" and go around middle schools giving bullies validation that what they're doing isn't wrong. It's a shame to see so many young people struggle with this. The message shouldn't be "don't kill yourself", the message should be "grow a pair and do something about it". Unfortunately, doing something about it is punishable by our schools, and trying to seek administrative help usually ends in a "stern talking-to" for the bully or better yet, the complete dismissal of it as "kids will be kids". Until that changes, bullying will remain a big problem among the youth in this country.
A little shaming isn't bad. I was bullied more than most people between 7-10th grade. I was overweight and lazy. I sold my Xbox and got a gym routine. It sucked at the time but made me a better person in the long run.
Many children are bullied for things that are out of their control, and for things they shouldn't have to change about themselves. And just because you made something positive out of it, that doesn't mean its OK. There are kids who are emotionally scarred or even resort to hurting themselves due to bullying in school. Mild teasing is one thing, and then there's stuff that is psychologically damaging.
Meh. I was thrown in trash cans, laundry bins during gym, etc. I bet bill gates, Steve jobs, and many other successful people were bullied. But the shaming helped them become stronger and work harder towards a goal. Now people press lawsuits on McDonalds because they're weak. We're becoming a p***y society.
Bullying can turn someone around. It can also destroy someone. The damages it does to some children are horrific. Teenagers should not be committing suicide, and most of those that do are because of bullying. That is why I care.
You tell me. Is it because the mother doesn't care about her child's physical safety, and her concern is just an act? Is that actually what you're suggesting?
95% of what happens in school doesn't matter after your graduate, get over it. I 'm a big guy who had to deal with it in school and everyday life, once you realize that the majority of the time everyone is so concerned with why they hate themselves, or what others think of them that they attempt to make other pay attention to anyone but them things get much better for you. People in general are only concerned with themselves and how others perceive them.
You sound like a pretty tough guy bro. Tell that to someone with a physical or mental disability. Tell that to the handicapped person drooling on his shirt. Tell that to the girl with bad teeth whose parents can't afford orthodontic. Tell that to the 5'1 Indian guy with a big nose. It's one thing to use others' criticism as motivation to improve yourself, but those people I mentioned above don't have much room to "work harder toward a goal". They can do well in school, they can go to college and be successful, but they shouldn't be subjected to physical and emotional abuse for something that they have no control over. "working harder" isn't gonna make that girl's teeth any better, or that guy's disability any less debilitating. Listen, I agree with you that for the right person, this can be a life changing experience that really makes them better. Hell, it worked form me. When I first came to this country in 9th grade, I was a 5'2 115 pound middle eastern FOB with a heavy accent and a huge broken hook nose. I took a lot of crap in school, and I'm not gonna, it really really sucks especially when you're an honor roll student aspiring to go into the medical field and the dude is a giant 4th year sophomore in and out of juve. If I physically retaliate: 1) I'll surely get my ass kicked, which I don't necessarily mind and 2) I will get suspended just as long as he will. He will enjoy his suspension because he'll hang out with his homies in the hood and smoke ganja, I will miss 3 days of class and fall behind on my AP classes. I also couldn't tell the deans/administrations because they'll laugh in my face and they really don't have the authority or the willingness to do anything to put an end to it. But you know what I did, I stopped being a p*ssy and got motivated by it. I got these people on my side by helping them on exams/quizzes. I worked my a$$ off in English and essentially eliminated my accent. I put on about 20 pounds of pure muscle over the span of 16 months. And hitting puberty certainly didn't hurt either haha. Now, 8 years later, I am a medical school student with my whole life in front of me, and the majority of these guys are drop outs who either work in fast food restaurants or in grocery stores. It's funny, about a year ago I was walking around with my girlfriend at the time (who also happened to be pretty hot, shame that didn't end up working out) at the mall when one of these dudes from high school yells my name. He comes over and embraces me, then proceeds to tell her "this dude is my n**** man, without him I would have never graduate!! I owe my life to this dude!". It put a smile on my face, and a funny look at her face. Crazy how things go full circle sometimes. Moral of the story is, yes, a bullying experience can help some people get motivated and work toward their goals in some cases, but that doesn't make it OK, and we cannot forget about those who can't really do anything about whatever they're being bullied for, which explains the suicides/depressions/the big issue that this is today.
