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Just went through a break up

Discussion in 'BBS Hangout' started by mfastx, Jun 24, 2013.

  1. Salvy

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    Everything everyone else said just about covers it.... But!!!!!!!!!!

    If I may add something rather important..... DO NOT take her back........ Ever..... Eventually that kind of girl always returns when her bf's do her wrong. And then she turns back to the only guy she knows will be there for her..... In a few months when you are finally feeling better and like there are new things for you, you will look at your phone right around 10 pm with a text that goes.. "Hey you awake ? :(" Don't stay friends with her, Don't give her advice in hopes she will one day see you care, DONT TAKE HER BACK!!!!!!!! I'm jus trying to warn you for your own good... I kno its harsh and these moments are sentimental and everything hurts but Don't do it!!!

    Don't be this guy
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  2. the shark

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    Sorry you're having to go through this as it's not easy.
    Just like anything else you need to give it time to get over this.

    I know this won't take the pain away, but one great thing that will come out of this (hopefully), is you have learned a valuable lesson here. What is the valuable lesson? How important trust is in a relationship, and without it you have nothing.

    You're off at college getting an education, but let me tell you, learning about how important trust in a relationship is will be something you'll remember the rest of your life.

    Don't let your heartache damage your education. This girl has broken your heart, but don't give her the power to hurt your education as well. How to move forward? It's tough to just flip the love switch on and off. When you start thinking about this girl don't focus on all the good things you had with her. When you find yourself doing this you need to remind yourself what SHE did and thus why you're not with her anymore.

    Take it one day at a time and trust me it WILL get better!!!!!
     
  3. mrm32

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    Go bang a Boston chick.
     
  4. ElPigto

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    I've seen this video before without the music. The music, oh man, it just killed me. Poor guy lol.
     
  5. ElPigto

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    Forgot to post something for the OP. My advice, like everyone else, just forget about her. Unless for whatever reason, you really do think she is the one (it is possible for someone to change and you can forgive), then just let it be. You are young bro and honestly, you don't need to ****ing sacrifice wanting to do things you want to do just for her. Trust me, I regret not doing a lot of **** throughout college, you don't want to put yourself through that after you graduate. It's best that you just enjoy your life right now and take risks and enjoy your company.
     
  6. IzakDavid13

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    The Gregory Brothers have to do a Songify of this...
     
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  7. sugrlndkid

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    Just some thoughts...and good luck with what you decide

    1. I went to HBU for undergrad and just because people are super religious doesnt mean they dont hook up...
    2. You are in Boston in college(assuming Boston College, Boston University, MIT, Tufts, Harvard, etc...) there are some smart folks in this city...go meet someone else.
    3. Distance kills a relationship, and promises are garbage.
    4. You need to just move on...yes it hurts, and sucks but eventually things get better.
    5. If she did it to you, take comfort in knowing that she may do it to someone else...so why do you wanna be with that kinda person.
    6. Focus on your career, have a vision for your life first, and eventually you'll find someone that fits that goal.
     
  8. RKREBORN

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    Set up a meeting with her for coffee or something where you are sure she will show up, then stand her up :)
     
  9. ima_drummer2k

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    Clutchfans Relationship Thread Response Template​


    She's banging someone else. Get over it and move on.
     
  10. mrm32

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    Better yet invite her out to a nice steakhouse. Have a nice dinner, talk, enjoy each others company. Then when you feel the bill is coming say you're going to the restroom and ditch her with the bill.
     
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  11. Nero

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    When a woman shows you her true colors, you can't undo that. Ever.

    You should be grateful. She showed you her true colors before you wasted any of your life on her, before you got married, had two kids, had a house, and ten to 15 years invested in her.

    Be glad.

    Most men are not so lucky.

    This time in your life, I know it feels like the end of the world, like you are devastated, like all you *want* is her, to have her back, you can forgive her, she can change, all of that.

    The thing you have to try to understand.. you have to really really try to grasp this and it will give you some serenity.. is that these years of your life are your TRAINING years for your real adult life, which hasn't started yet. These are the steps you have to take to learn the valuable life lessons which will serve you well as you get older.

    And believe me, you have learned a valuable life lesson. Give a woman every opportunity to show you her true colors BEFORE you have too much of your heart and your life invested in her. Do NOT be the snooping jealous type, but don't be naive either. And do not hesitate to slam that door the minute she shows you that she cannot be trusted. Because if she shows you that, then you will know she can NEVER be trusted.

    You don't feel like it now, but in ten years, you will look back and be glad you dodged this bullet, and also glad for her teaching you such valuable lessons.

    Keep your head up. Do something nice for yourself, and don't obsess over her, it's over, don't facebook stalk her, don't call her, don't accept her calls. Put a wall there.

    You'll be all right.
     
  12. v3.0

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    You need a hobby, pick up a guitar and learn this song:


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  13. peleincubus

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    I'm going to differ from everyone else. Do everything you can to get her back.
     
  14. Ziggy

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    20 ey.... let's meet up. You supply to the 20 year old girls and I'll hook us both up. You'll be over that chick in 2 weeks.
     
  15. ChievousFTFace

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    1. Take the time you need to be angry/upset/sad/etc.

    2. You are young and this will be an insanely small part of your overall dating career.

    3. You screwed up: (Insert Captain Picard WTF picture) WHY WOULD YOU AGREE TO NOT DRINK AT COLLEGE PARTIES FOR ONE GIRL?!

    4. She's human. You can't expect a teenage girl to not flirt. Especially if you're doing the long distance relationship... this just doesn't happen. Get over everything you think she did wrong to you because most people would have done it. She's a kid and you can't expect her to be able to communicate like an adult.

    5. Work out. Eat right. Read. Get a new hobby.

    6. Mow through some hoodrats.

    7. Next relationship, learn to trust instead of setting rules. If a girl needs rules to follow and not her own instincts, you probably shouldn't trust her in the first place.
     
  16. Jontro

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    Basically this.
     
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  18. mfastx

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    I really appreciate the responses guys. Lol'd at some of them. Feeling better already.

    Gonna hit the gym today.

    thx Clutchfans
     
  19. Francis3422

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    I had something similar happen when I was that age. I was smart enough to shut the w**** out of my life for awhile. It was torturous for her and I resisted her overtures to come to Houston and see me.

    You need to do the same my friend. It will hurt her. They when she begs to come back, **** her a few times and then kick her to the curb. You will have both learned a valuable lesson.
     
  20. REEKO_HTOWN

    REEKO_HTOWN I'm Rich Biiiiaaatch!

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