So, I've known a few women that have the same experience as you (some friends and some acquaintances) and I used to wonder how this could be. By shear numbers it seems implausible. Then, I came to the conclusion that some women are much more shallow than men. A woman would rather be alone than "settle" for a guy that just has a great personality. He better be attractive or in a better financial state than them. I'm not saying that is who you are, shadypink, at all. I've just notice that when there's an overweight man with an attractive woman we easily dismiss him as being shallow but when things are turned around we still find a way to doubt the guy. Women can be just as shallow if not more.
If I'm going to answer this seriously...some guys find it attractive. Sometimes it really is just that simple. Some people have a pretty insane definition of what 'Fat' is. I remember some guy here calling this girl fat. Spoiler Of course there are people who call Kate Upton fat as well. Even for the truly obese women, some guys have a thing for that. Just like some guys have a thing for...well other guys. As for women who like guys with money/power and put that above looks. Seems like a natural thing, if you are a woman you would want a guy with the ability to take care of your children I would think.
When I was really puny nerdy skinny I only wanted skinny girls. Now that I got size on me would take something up to 150-160 depending if thick in the right places. I've seen some black girls that are 170+ and look nothing chubby, them thighs and racks. Anything bigger is just trolling around for me. Big girls are freakier and don't bring that much drama.
Yeah the definition of "fat" can even vary, but I think there's enough consensus. Well, when it comes to it, guys do value accessible poon without the head games. And hotter girls tend to be kinda nutty. And maybe a more RESOURCEFUL bigger girl who is handy at handling situations is better than some hot but lazy trophy arm-piece. Women ARE SHALLOW, there's no "can be" to it lol. Women go with bad boys cuz they want excitement and want to **** or tame the bull, and settle with a "safer" pick later. But we have to give women deference as the more honorable so we protect the names of the "mothers" of the world. But of course women are material and into security for their well being. Its why women outlive men. I don't he indicated he was too "jelly" of those brahs. I think he just made an observation how it can be the reverse way. (I'da said it in the same way. But I don't hate on it)
In the case of married people or long term relationships, it is possible one person became interested in fitness later on in the marriage while one did not. Also, people age differently. My girlfriend prefers to b**** about aging and her body issues but do nothing about it while I prefer to be quiet and work to age gracefully. It isn't a big deal to me either way because I didn't choose to be with her based on what I thought she would look like 5, 10 or 50 years later.
Considering there are people who consider Kate Upton fat...I don't really know what's skinny anymore.
Well there's probably guys (like me) who would prefer a girl's t*** and ass be "proportionate" to their body type. Kate Upton's got massive cans, and she looks great. Would absolutely love to boink. But that's not gonna happen anytime soon. I mostly prefer taller/thinner girls, and even after dating some shorter, thicker girls...I still prefer taller/thinner. Not saying these "other" girls aren't attractive, but...I'd definitely think long and hard about marrying the girl (which, superficially, kinda sucks for the girl with a great personality). Honestly, I'm more of a face guy.
Chicks who get fat just because they're too lazy to work out and eat healthy while their husbands work hard to stay fit are just asking to get cheated on.
Sigh, you realize that her stomach is flat and that she's really just thick, right? Non-blacks generally have a hard time distinguishing between thick and fat. If that sounds racist, I'm sorry but I've seen it many, many times.