Even with men, I think its about looks and youth too. Or youthful good looking appearance in the aged people. 30s and on, it almost HAS to be along WITH 1 of those other traits to get MAXIMUM poon. In youth can get by on looks alone. In older age, it has to be looks+wealth / looks+confidence Confidence and wealth alone CAN compensate for lack of looks. But as superficial as it seems, the world is about good looking people. I mean, look at how much that "chubby cheerleader" story gets press! Because physical appearance matters THAT MUCH.
Women RULE social media over guys. Women are using social media to close the gap, and are succeeding. They can't "win" in in the regular "male dominated" climate, but they'll more than make up for it in the social/virtual world Microblogging, instapics, quickvids, all that is custom made for the young female "LOOK at ME!" whims. Men get by the social media basically playing that same skin-deep social game. Its just if men WANT to do that (I dont do that). But if you DO, it works out for both sides. I think that approach is starting to get some holes. If people actually WANT to have kids (basis for marriage) our physical evolution still hasnt advanced and cought up with our SOCIAL evolution. The best time to have HEALTHY kids is still in the 20s. Having kids past that is far riskier getting kids with medical issues. But if guys want to JUST "play the field" no serious commitments then yeah don't get hitched early. (I'll say that in my 30's I'm still more a "creeper" to younger women until proven otherwise. You need to be as UN-AVERAGE as possible to attract the young poon. If you actually value substance, you probably don't want to waste time in that anyway)
I agree that for many (unmarried) men, their 30s is when they're in the prime. A few words of caution though: - It is very important that men start getting experience with women, dating, sex and relationships while they're in their mid-late teens or early 20s. Do not wait. Get comfortable with the nuances of interacting with women in a platonic, flirtatious and/or sexual way while you're still young. Most women are subtle; learn to "read" them. Get used to rejection. Get comfortable in your own skin. While there are exceptions, people are generally expected to have sexual and relationship experience by around the age of 25...and late bloomers are a turnoff. - If you want to get married and have kids, then it's probably best to do that in your mid-late 20s or early 30s. (Everyone is different though.) Not only to maximize the possibility of a healthy child, but also for your own sake. Young kids require a lot of energy from their parents and you probably don't want to deal with that while you're in your 40s and 50s. Anyway, an unmarried 30-something man who is confident, socially well-adjusted (and has been since he was ~18 years old), experienced with women and has his s**t together with career, finances, friends, etc. is likely going to attract a lot of attention from women. Even moreso if he's physically attractive and has a good sense of humor. OTOH, many men like that are already in a LTR with a girlfriend unless he's a commitment-phobe or just wants to stay single, play the field and live the bachelor lifestyle.
This. The bachelor market dwindles significantly regarding 30+ year old men, so those that are single, successful, and not hideous would seemingly have a lot of women to choose from - but a lot of men that age are matured and don't want the issues that come with dating a girl, say, in her early to mid 20s. But the career/financial stability that usual comes along with being in your 30s is probably the biggest attraction to the opposite sex - they want that security (well, some of them just want you to buy them a lot of expensive **** too).
just turned 32 and this thread really made me feel a lot better. Recently, I've been noticing that a lot of younger women (18-24) have been paying more attention to me and was wondering why. It does make a lot of sense... so i'll just play on
Depends on where you're at. I lived in DC from 24-32 and my best years were pretty much 25-30. Took me a year or so to get established and build a social network, then I met Mrs. rimrocker about the time I hit 30. Much better than HS and college and certainly grad school (ugh). If Mrs. rimrocker hadn't come on the scene, I'm pretty sure I could have kept going way past 35 as there was quite the "Sex and the City" cohort there.
Since then, she has quit college, is working minimum wage and living with the older gentleman. Sounds like taking the easy way out to me. But damn, if I was the older gentleman, I wouldn't give a fk cause I would be getting hot, young pootytang everyday!
Yeah it holds true if you're unattractive, bland or spend 80+ hours a week at a menial corporate job. But if you've got an ounce of playa in you, and you be smashin models from age 13, haha, well then, Nah. Nah. Don't justify your lameness with dumb charts.
I always hated when girls would date older 30+ year old men when i was in my early 20's. I was jealous they were banging them, sure. But, it was mostly bc i couldn't wait to get older. At 25 i was still getting people asking me if i just graduated high school or being carded for Rated R movies. It was embarrassing especially when the girls wanted to be with someone who not only was a man, but looked the part. One of the reasons i didn't really stop my weight gain, was bc i knew i'd look older with a more filled out body. Now nearing 30, i have gray hairs coming in everywhere(can't wait for the Clooney salt and pepper look) and my baby face is in tact with thicker facial hair. I have feeling 35-50 are going to be great years. I always said the babyface was both a curse and a blessing. Curse in my youth, but a blessing in the days when both men and women my age have already fallen apart and i'm still looking very youthful. I just gotta slow down the beer drinking and stop eating out(mostly due to the drinking) and i'll be alright.
Eh people have sex and get in relationships well into their 40s too. You get married when you feel its right if it ever is. Believe me, you'll be happier marrying on your terms and not because you feel pressured to. There's no set or defined age to get married or be single.
Actually the odd thing about my babyface....I've been with older women all my life since i lost my virginity at 16 to a 30 yo. and still am. Had all the way up to 50 yo. women. Cougars throw themselves at me. For that i guess people thought i was some player, especially since they were good looking cougs. But, i don't feel anything special bc im sure they banged countless other young guys too. What makes me feel like a loser is that no girls my age have any interest in me at all. Never have. The only girls ive been with that were my age or younger were whores that put out in 30 minutes or less after meeting them. I hate that. All these young girls that i see that i'm very into, i don't stand a chance. Yet there i go and a random older woman comes up to me telling me shes been watching me the whole night, or friends own mothers, or married women who have acted or married women who couldn't stand being around me bc they were afraid of acting out. Yet, not one hot, young girl who wants to be properly courted. Girls don't know what they want, but women do. Blah blah, every single one of them have tried to tell me that. It's bull****. They don't know what they want either, bc of being in a **** marriage or having been divorced several times.
