I want to be with the person I was in love with. But apparently that person never existed. She says it was a one time thing.
After I walked out last night she texted me saying she was "sorry that it wont change what she did blah blah blah and that she would do anything to make it work and that she will be waiting while I think things through."
Went through the same thing a while back. Even posted it on here. It's gonna take a while for you to get over her. Even now and then i still think about my ex and have stupid dreams about her. And it's been 2 yrs and she's long gone. Maybe it's because i haven't found someone.
Don't believe it. You said she cheated in feb, and in those two months you didn't even notice anything different about her. She is a good actress. You need someone more transparent.
Tell her what she did was unforgivable and she can wait as long as she wants, but nothings going to change. However, if you do get back with her (but dont, plenty of other fish out there), tell her you have 1 stipulation. At some point in the future, you get a free pass. Oh, was it a one time thing or did she cheat more than once?
One time thing, not that it really changes anything in my mind, just makes it less painful than if it was a regular thing.
So she says. Why would you have any reason at all to trust her? Don't ever talk to her again. This country (and world, really) is teeming with good women. Even in OK. More importantly, you should just be single for a while and learn how to live on your own, make friends, etc.
don't fall for that unconditional love crap. you love someone on the condition that they respect and love you back. when you give, give, give it gets taken for granted. frankly, you have to plant in her brain that you are willing to leave her even if you love her. people appreciate things more when they know they could lose it.
Everything is sex? Most people cheat at some point in their lives. I say learn to forgive. If you thought she was the one, maybe she is. People get too wrapped up in the physical. The emotional is where it matters.
Sucks bro. You are not alone. Get out. I think it will be impossible to get out of your head if you stay. You will have less Happiness than you deserve even if she never cheats again. It will be in your head. So best to move on. Like the others said, you are better off. Many fish. Probably take you a year to recover fully and move on. But worth it in the end. Seems like you already figured that out. but don't expect to meet another as good, just different. Key is you will have trust. And that will make it better. Move it on.
The 'one' wouldn't take the chance to throw away everything for one night of fun. You can forgive her eventually, but that doesn't mean you should get back with her.
She will cheat again.....sorry bro. I know people say that maybe she wont but she will. She might not be planning on it or really think she isn't going to but it will happen. I've been in your situation and given the girl another chance......biggest waste of time ever and emotionally draining to go through that again.
Walk away. The one time she questioned her feelings for you, she cheated. It will happen again. I agree with a previous suggestion, join a dating site. It's OKC...close to a major university. There's bound to be some other lonely females around.
Your situation sounds a lot like the beginning of this movie. Try and have your situation end up like the end of this movie.
How does she know him? And how did she hook up with this guy? Was it work? What kind of work does she do? Sorry for the twenty questions, just curious.
