My wife fit all nine of those categories before we married. I met her at seminary school. Start with the top priority and work your way down. If she is a good believing girl she should fit all categories except cook and clean, which can be learned if not something they are used to. One more thing, I spent more time meeting her parents at the very beginning and watching how she interacted with them. I wanted to know if I could deal with her mom and dad for the rest of my life and you can learn a ton about a girl by seeing how she treats and interacts with her parents. If she is kind and loving toward her dad and respectful and helpful with her mom, then you might have found someone to consider.
I can't believe you have a list of 9 things, and two of them are cook and clean, and none of them have anything to do with her actually being any good in bed.
I know the practice of "arranged marriages" is more common in parts of the world than most Americans realize, and I don't have a "built in prejudice" against the idea, being open minded about most kinds of marriage. My caveat is that personal choice is involved, as in if one party of the deal decides, upon actually meeting the other party, that he/she is crazy as a loon and they want to back out, then they can without suffering some sort of terrible consequence, aside from some bruised feelings amongst the family. Having said that, I can't imagine marrying someone that I didn't know extremely well, and that I didn't love deeply. Worked for me over 30 years ago.
There was a big story here in India about a girl killing herself because the husband and his family became increasingly abusive because they wanted more and more dowry just days after the wedding.
Sex is amazing. Plus, I have the added connection of being her first which makes her closer to me also. Do you know how when some girls have been a virgin and then when they lose it they go crazy. Basically thats what has happened in my relationship and I get all the benefits.
LCA, didn't you ask me which strip club I played at now recently? Nothing wrong with that, just a little funny in this new context.
All marriage are basically arranged. It just depends on who does the arranging. It sounds like you have a lot of say so in the arranging LCAhmed. Just find out if she is faithful to the things going on in her life already. The person who is faithful in little things will most likely be faithful in the big things as well.
I do, I by no means am being forced into anything. But the pressure to be put into an "old fashioned" marriage is still present from 1 side of my parents. And there is only a few selections atm that I know about. My parents arent arranged, so that is usually my response to keep them off when they bring it up. (when I say they I mean an individual parent). I'm slowly unraveling the reality of the world and seeing that not everything is cakes and candies.
Actually, high heels were considered high fashion for men in Europe for several centuries. Who knows, maybe it'll make a comeback? The point is that marrying your cousin isn't as unheard of and taboo as most people seem to think.
Honestly, being from a split household (religiously and culturally) It is not as easy for me to find potentials. I am not able to rely on my mom speaking with other moms in the area to talk about potential "my son and your daughter blah blah" kind of thing. Also, I am unsure of how to go about trying to find out about local Muslim women in the community without being wrong or getting embarrassed. I have no idea which father belongs to which daughter, so I cannot easily approach them without first doing "research". Also, in arab culture, you are not graded on what you do, you are graded on what your father has done or does followed by how your family is. So even if I have done so much or act a certain way, if my Dad has done something different, then that family will judge based on my father, not me. This always pissed me off since I feel like I am getting judged unfairly (positively or negatively doesnt matter, I want to make my own way on my own terms).
