And then you didn't take it to the next step which is why you got friend zoned. There are other men out there who will take the hint that while she is in their bed and she kissed them then the next thing she knows is that her legs are bent up behind her head and she's getting rammed like a jackhammer.
Good grief... The first thing I wondered after reading your OP was how old you were. You're 19, which is a little bit old to not know how to handle such situations...but not unusually so. Learn from this experience and move on with your life. There are pathetic guys out there who are 30-35 years old who are inexperienced with women and make newbie errors similar to yours. - Learn to be clear on what you want, don't send mixed signals. - Get some self-confidence. Most women like assertive men with backbone...with opinions, beliefs and values of their own...and will stand up for themselves when challenged or tested. It is possible to be this way while still being a humble, nice person with a fun personality. This is one component of growing up into a mature adult.
I think certain guys ask for this, even if subconsciously, they create it for whatever reason it works for them. Like (& not equating the two, hitting women is NOT OKAY, nowhere near the same level), but like certain women who on some level want to provoke physical violence. When it happens over & over, & you keep banging your head against a wall, & keep seeking out the same type of relationship with new walls, at some point this is what you want.
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In highschool there was this girl who had a huuuuge crush on me but i was never really attracted to her. Well i gave her a little chance my senior year and i i began to like her. We talked for a while and had some moments but she ended up claiming i wasn't the one after our first kiss. I wasn't too happy about that, to get back on her i ended up dating one of her good friends and i made sure she found out what she was missing. Oh the look on her face LOL. Long story short if you get friend zoned just **** her friend, that'll teach her.
You should probably substantially eliminate her from your life. Keep the relationship/friendship far more distant. From the way she communicates with you, seems like a pretty big waste of your time. If your feelings are sincere, they will continue to surface when you see her with whoever. Plus, you're 19...I wish I was 19. You'll meet someone new who you'll feel all these things for, and she'll do the same for you. Just remember...rejection will happen, it sucks, and it's just a part of life. But, you will move on, you will move on!
alright the gloves are off.. op is waiting for us to tell him its ok to continue to get friendzoned and that everything will work out if you keep trying. go for it buddy!!! quit trying to rationalize things op. chicks, especially young chicks, throw kisses around like theyre nothing. girls will even mess around with guys who they are not attracted to just because they are around. they know they will not get rejected and theyre searching for some acceptance, possibly after being dismissed by the guys they truly lust after. seems like youre romanticizing a peck on the lips she handed out in charity.. it was a "awwe youre so cute, muah" type of thing. it wasnt a "im soakin wet, **** the **** out of me kiss." you would know it was that type of kiss because girls are very aggressive and this would have already taken the next step. i think the question that needs to be asked is if the OP has ever knocked down some p***y before, you coming off real virgin-like right now. asking other guys what a kiss meant and if it means she kinda, might one day, likes you because girls dont just kiss anybody??!!?.. this wont happen because the op is too much of a p***y, he wont say these things because hes too scared that "he will lose her friendship" or some bull**** like this.. listen op, whether you force the issue or not, in 5 years, this chick will not be in your life. she will have got knocked up married and started a new life with someone and you will be long gone. youre just filler for her, a shoulder to cry on until she finds a dude that snags her up and tells her she cant have any male friends. then she will cut you off without a word.. man the **** up already. another thing, in the situation that she is desperately horny and cant find something new, she will call up exes before she gives it up to you. thats just the way it is.. then after she done getting pounded by her ex, she will cuddle with you, and you will think youre in..
I had friendships with women turn into more. It can happen. Twice to me, actually. Both times, it turned out to be a significant romantic relationship. Each time, we had been friends first. One for about 6 months, the other a little longer than that. From what I have seen, when a guy gets friend zoned, it is either because he let the friendship go for years before suddenly realizing he wants more, or e girl was never going to be interested in that way in the first place.
she keeps emphasizing to me that she just doesn't have "those" feelings, but won't tell me any reason why. this is the most irritating thing ever, she won't give me ANY reason why she doesn't like me in that way. she just says "its just what i feel"
She won't tell you because it might hurt your feelings. Imagine the opposite. You don't like a girl (think of a reason), and she keeps asking you for that reason. Would you tell her?
No, she sounds like a normal person. Who cares what her reason is? She doesn't owe anyone a reason and this guy probably wouldn't like the reason even if she told him. In the end it's irrelevant. The answer is to stop being sensitive and get over it.
i just asked her about "friends with benefits" she responded: "Lol i mean i've done that before, but it feels wrong i guess" how should i approach this angle
