Lol...funny...you should tell the person you "want something more with" that you think she is a ho...lollll You still didnt listen...she is just using you for sex buddy...young single good looking women in high stress jobs (ie lawyers, doctors) just wanna bang...they arent looking for anything committed till they actually get situated in a firm/practice...she is in a period of transition and your filling that temporary void...
TBH, it won't end well. You're ****ing a girl you really like and she doesn't have the same feelings. And then if you go into a relationship, it'll be brought up later on as how ****ty you guys got together.
Dood. You are making too much sense. But you don't understand, I'm in love. Normally I would agree with you. Actually, I absolutely agree with you. Except I can't stress enough how promiscuous this chick is. She lives life like a dude. Maneater. Would have no problems one night standing me. I am unequivocally already the b**** in this relationship. She's 24. What do you mean "what ethnicity Asian"? She's Taiwanese-American(I'm a LOF). But I was referring to the size and firmness, not ethnicity. Trust me, I am highly cognizant of this fact. The advice I am seeking is how to break free of this situation. I am trying to bag this chick up. If the answer is simply, "you can't", then that will be something I have to eventually accept.
A wise African American philosopher once said, "You can't turn a ho into a housewife. Hos don't act right."
She doesn't love you and she does not care if you love her. You for whatever reason meet her sexual needs now, but doubtful you will for long. She sees this whole situation different than you. Marriage, boyfriend and companion have no interest to her... It is a lot of work and baggage for her. Especially with **** buddy's being a dime a dozen. Either have protected sex with her and have fun or walk away.
Honestly, she's probably going to be the type that never wants kids, and wants to focus on her career and accomplishments. Absolutely nothing wrong with that, but you have to ask yourself if that's what YOU want. If being with her is the ultimate prize to you, and you'd be willing to sacrifice a "normal" life (family, kids, etc) then go for it. However, I'd definitely give her a good **** for at least another few months before bringing it up.
The answe you seek comes from your cf brethren. Just friendzone her. If you want her long term...stop sleeping with her. Promiscous asian chicks are usually looking for acceptance because the way their parents demonstrated love is not what they see tv parents (who are not asian) do. By denying her your penis she will seek for your acceptance. This is the simple truth.
I would say something like "we can be bestfriends as long as you dont mind that im always going to have those feelings for you." Hopefully, she'll saying something like "sounds good" and you'll be all set. Good luck.
Also since shes taiwanese and havard educated then most likely money ane status is very important to her. She probably considers you to be not on her level. If you want to wife her you better have a million in the bank.
I realize that this is the most likely outcome. Possibly the only outcome. I do. Just wondering if there were any alternatives. And if not, so be it. It is. I ain't even mad. I'm seeing other people so not to put all my eggs in one basket. She has ruined me though. These nice/shy/quiet types just don't do it for me anymore. Got hooked on dem freaks. MOTHER OF GOD. That might just be crazy enough to work. She would not blink twice if I cut her off completely. She has no problems getting laid. However, by remaining friends that adds a new twist, a dynamic that just might throw her off balance. I would also immediately gain the upper h... Wait a second. Oh hell no I am not giving up that p***y.
So she is totally nuts.... Sounds like a great lady to have in a relationship. Don't worry you can fix her. :grin: But seriously girls who are "freaks" without wanting relationships are normally completely ****ed in the head. Usually some combo of emotional or physical abuse or some sort of emotionally absent daddy issues. You know what you are getting into....and if you don't then you will find out she is a complete train wreck emotionally. Trust me...I've learned the hard way lol.