This is terrible advice. If you frame everything in this manner (honestly) it'll be even tougher to make the whole thing work in your favor. You want to dangle that glimmer of hope to make sure you get what you want. It's on the girl if she cant see what's really going on. And yes, you can have multiple friends with benefits, just don't tell them about each other. Y'all make everything overly-complicated when it comes to relationships.
It's definitely possible to have a friend with benefits, as well as having multiple relationships like this. Of course, it's difficult to maintain that level of relationship for an extended period of time because one of you is probably going to develop real feelings for the other (most likely the one who has the least amount of FWBs). For example, I'd been hooking up with this girl for a couple weeks with the knowledge that neither of us was looking for anything more than that. We've been friends for a good while and neither of us had ever shown any interest in each other before. We were at a comfort level to where we could just hang out before or after and it not be awkward at all. Then I started hanging out with another girl who vehemently wishes not to be in a relationship, but also doesn't mind giving a little love every now and then. I've started spending more time with this girl (we have a lot more in common and she's more attractive) on the weekends but still doing my due diligence with the first girl. Last night the first girl asks me what I'm doing and I jokingly say that I'm "going to hang out with a bunch of chicks", something I would never say in a serious manner. She pauses before saying, "Ya know, you can really be an a**hole." Which broke down into me having to explain that, even if I was being serious, it would make no difference because we had an understanding and she has no hold on me. She said she understood (but does she really?) and would back off. To my point, I believe it's possible for an undetermined amount of time to maintain multiple friends with benefits. Once feelings get in the way, however, it's time to drop the situation and either just be friends or slowly stop talking to the person in question (or date if you so choose)
I've had two in my life. They all ended up falling for me and wanted to get with me. I said hell to the no and left! lol
FWB can work but only for so long. Also whether or not you will be "faithful" FWBs can be an issue. Would she be ok with you hooking up with someone else? Would you be ok with her doing that? But if this is good ol' prostitution then there are no complications, and you are not considered FWBs. You're business partners.
Weird timing. My ex and I were friends with benefits throughout all this school year. Then this past weekend, she told me we can't be having sex, so I slowly pulled out of the situation. I didn't text her or call her for a few days, then two days, she blew up my phone. That b**** called me over 20 times, and I am not exaggerating. Being friends with benefits with your ex has its pros and cons.
i was FWB with one of my exes while she was with her new bf for a while. i didn't mind, but she was pretty torn up about it.
Before establishing a FWB relationsihp I always talk with the girl and make sure we both know it's a no strings attached thing and that if either of us feel anything different we should end it. Worked for me through school.
well i'm in a fwb relationships with a couple of chicks right now.. after a couple of encounters they all started telling me they need some "financial help" to continue the so call relationship. No they dunno each other and they're not really prostitute, both in college and working part time. I guess they're just trying to "hustle" me? Who knows, maybe they're doing this to other guys too.. i'm debating whether to go forward or back out.
If it's really friends with benefits then there is no need to give a glimmer of hope, because you both agree you aren't looking for a serious relationship from the get go. The downside is some times people say that they want a strictly physical/casual relationship and end up getting attached and wanting more or they lied about not wanting a serious relationship because they wanted to be with the other person. Still, if you are having to pretend like you might want a serious relationship down the road in order to get what you want then that's not really a mutual friends with benefits relationship. If you told them from the start you don't want anything serious, you can always go back to that as an excuse to get out of the relationship if they say they want more. I'd agree that there is usually no reason to tell any of the other "friends with benefits" about one another, and if they all really agreed that they don't want a serious relationship have as many as you feel comfortable with. Just keeping in mind that the girls may be doing the same thing with multiple other guys. If your not clear that you aren't looking for a serious relationship from the start, any that are not agreeable to that are going to consider you to be cheating on them and you risk alot more drama in the future.
I'm a habitual offender. Feelings will definitely get in the way 100% of the time, if it goes on long enough. I've burned a lot of bridges that way. But honestly, how long can you be friends with a female without having sex? I mean if she's cute and has a good personality and we hang out... What else is there? It's inevitable.
End it. Find others. You did it twice already, surely you can do it again. AND FOR GODS SAKE PICS OR GTFO
Sounds like a bad situation to me. I might consider giving money to a friend with benefits for an emergency if I believed that it was real, depending on how much they were asking for, and how much the friend part of friends with benefits existed. But not with threats about ending the relationship if they didn't get it. Money or the relationship is over is a bit too close to prostitute for my tastes.
