You just need a good cry son. Rent Waiting to Exhale & Love Jones tonight, buy a bottle of wine and ice cream... and just cry. Whitney Houston - Where Do Broken Hearts Go<br/><embed type="application/x-shockwave-flash" src="http://www.4shared.com/flash/player.swf?ver=9051" style="" quality="high" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="false" wmode="opaque" flashvars="file=http://bestmuzon.net/music/W/Whitney_Houston_-_Where_Do_Broken_Hearts_Go_1817.mp3&volume=50&" height="20" width="320"><br/>Powered by <a href="http://www.mp3olimp.com">www.mp3olimp.com</a><script type="text/javascript" src="http://www.mp3olimp.com/embeded.js"></script><br/>
There's two bulls standing on top of a mountain. The younger one says to the older one: "Hey pop, let's say we run down there and **** one of them cows". The older one says: "No son. Lets walk down and **** 'em all".
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Be someone's first choice. If she wanted to be with you, she would be. Don't give away emotions on someone who wouldn't do the same for you. Could be worse, I was to be married and she left. Now I gotta go do something manly to make up for everything I just said. :grin:
At least I know it could be worse, I can't even imagine how that must of felt. I know this sounds really sappy and stupid, but I think this hurts so bad because I felt so strongly about her. For the first time in my life, I actually cared about somebody else. In the past, it was always about going for the hottest girl, and trying to **** her. With this one, it was different. I liked seeing her happy, I was enamored with all the quirky things she did, and when I was with her, I felt like she was the only person that existed. Not only do I feel angry and betrayed, I feel empty, because she filled a void.
Trust me, I get it. You feel empty because as hard as you try to move past everything, it's just hard to watch time pass you over too. I suppose heartache wouldn't hurt so bad if it was just a physical pain...but it does it's damage from the inside, the mind and the heart. I'd say give it time, but, (and not trying to sound pessimistic) the whole time heals everything, not always true. But you're probably really young, you should be thankful that you get to feel something. Hey, the fact that you still care/are bothered so much is a good thing...it's a sign of virtue.
First thing you gotta learn is live for yourself man not someone else. Girls come and go. Sometimes you just gotta say **** it and relax lol. However it does seem that you need to come out of your shell some more, I wasn't a social butterfly in Highschool but I made lots of friends and hooked up lots of times just because I was that guy that everyone liked. When you get older you'll learn that the only people you have in this ****ty world is your one best friend and your family. If you live carefree girls will come lol. Cheers man hope you feel better!
Thanks man. I've started to socialize a bit more, take more chances regarding my social life (I never would have had the gumption to ask someone out last year). Unfortunately, I'm labeled as a nerd, and the last 5 months of high school are an impossible time for re-inventing my image. I'm sure I'll be able to expand even moreso in college. The thing is though, I'm not really interested in quick hookups, I could get those if I really wanted. I know it sounds old-fashioned and corny, but I'm looking for a meaningful relationship. I thought I was on the right track with this girl since she comes off as that type of person (as I know now that's not the case).
No you aren't. That's what you tell girls that you are interested in to woo them. No guy should believe that. You've got a full life ahead of you, why tie yourself down early with a serious relationship? Of course that's my opinion. High school relationships are almost always short-lived, college relationships turning serious is a little more realistic but unnecessary. Most everyone finds who they are looking for eventually. Also there are no soulmates; every girl is expendable. Also don't worry about being a nerd. If you have been labeled that by society then whatever, its merely a label. You might have to work a little harder at it but if people get to know you it doesn't matter what your label is. Just don't be the anti-social weird kid that only talks to his/her own clique of friends and shuts him/herself outside of the rest of the world. Be social and everything will fall into place.
Best advise from one of the better posters on this board... Had my heart broken, except i was dating her for about 5 years(but im a lot older than you), but I have come to realize the strengths i have and i know ill find the right chick that wants those things...and once im able to go socialize a bit more than i have(stuck bc of grad school exams), i can get any girl i want...but right now im trying to get focused on my career... Getting shot down and rejected, will help you as a growing young man, and you need to learn, that you know nothing about woman now. Just wait till you go off to college and you'll see that women are a dime a dozen...after that, you will have gained enough basic social skills you'' need to deal with all types of women, and you can move on from there...and if lucky you could find someone special... For now, get your life prioritized, and get your career started and focus on your college education..Get fit, get smart, and become social and your life will take off for the better...
Many, many years ago, I was just like you looking for the whole meaningful relationship thing. Its not corny or old-fashioned. Its what everyone wants at some point in life. But I'm here to tell you that if you make it that important to you it will be as obvious as can be. Women will sense that and will in fact become more difficult to obtain. NEVER let a woman become that important to you in the early stages of getting to know her. NEVER. It makes no sense, but people (and women in particular) want someone that's not so easy to obtain. If you really hope to have a life long partner, there has to be equal amounts of desire. If you set yourself up as clingy, or friendship material too easily...that actually makes you less attractive in their eyes. And women are experts at sensing this in guys. The best thing you can do is work on yourself. Ladies respect money, confidence, humor and to some extent looks. That gets them intrigued. If you also happen to be a good man, then eventually that's what they fall in love with. Work on these things and they will flock to YOU with plenty to choose from for that "meaningful relationship".
Bro, I know that feels. Just cry it out for a few minutes, feel better, hit the gym, and spoil yourself with a few bottles of Nutella. If you want, just hint at her name and CF will find pics of her for ourselves.
I remember when my dream crush turned out to be a slut back in my high school days as well, most of us have been there. For some reason when I was younger I thought that beauty and evil didn't mix...WAS I WRONG! Anyway man continue to live your life, be your self one day you will find the girl you've been looking for.
Another word of advise find an outlet. When I had problems as a teen I started playing basketball and this helped me tremendously and allowed me to come out of my shell. Maybe basketball is too late for you... If it is try something like ju jitsu, anything that will expose you to different people and get you out of your comfort zone is good. I can see that clutchfans (the Internet) may also be an outlet that you use but try to have something in real life that stimulates you. And believe it or not constructive things like what I mentioned exposé you to some nice girls too. I met my best friend (a girl) through a simple volunteering event.
I was going to post these exact same words... You are on the friend ladder. True. Now please post pics.
