http://washingtonexaminer.com/study...support-for-same-sex-marriage/article/2520461 Does this mean no fap will lead to homohaters? Discuss.
I think anyone worried about sex with their wife or whatever "resetting the clock" is really missing the point. This isn't about becoming celibate. It's about allowing your natural instincts to work the way they were intended, towards building relationships with actual women. That's how more babies get made and the species survives, etc. If you watch the Ted talk, he's basically saying that p*rn and masturbation are just "cheating" those natural instincts to create an artificial stimulus of pleasure, which over time we basically build up an immunity to, which makes us need to consume more and more of to get the same highs, just like any other drug addiction. Point is, if you're "on the program" and getting more attention from the ladies, you're not cheating - the system is working.
wow, i was expecting for this thread to get derailed. Nice work everyone. Day 2. My record so far is 22.
Day 24 I don't think I had a problem, but I incorporated this into a lot of other healthy lifestyle changes for this new year. I've also been exercising, journaling, writing, sleeping better, getting out of the house more (I work from home), and trying to get more stuff accomplished with the kids. So far, the combination of all these things has been very healthy for me. I am definitely feeling more energetic and easy going when it comes to a lot of things. I've been setting up playdates for my kids more easily. Some of this is them moving to a different pre-school, but I feel I've been able to strike up conversations with other moms and set up dates where it seemed it was difficult to actually set up times to meet before. I've never tried to hit on or even been sexually interested in other moms, but maybe there was something in my attitude that kept them from being open to setting up a kid play date with a dad. Was there an aura of sexual aggression about me? I don't know, but I do feel I'm better right now at communicating with other people. I don't feel quite as anxious about things, and I'm taking a more laid back approach with things. Ironically, not pressing on stuff is allowing me to have more energy to actually accomplish them. My writing is more productive than it has been in years. We've been doing more reading and math lessons at home with the kids, and I've been making a lot of fun craft and learning activities for them. I've been knocking out house projects that have been lingering for a while. My wife worked a massive amount of hours in 2012 (100+ hour work weeks for much of the year), and I definitely felt bottled up sexually at times last year. She's still working a lot, but at least it clocks in under 60 hours a week now! However, I have a much more relaxed manner about sex now. I'm not looking for it constantly or as insistently, and I don't get upset if we are just too tired to fool around even if it's a night when the grandparents take the kids overnight. Consequently, I'm finding a lot more success getting my wife in the mood. All women (and not just the Mrs.) must really have a radar that tells them when guys are thinking about sex even if they're not actively in pick up mode. I don't know how much to attribute this newfound attitude of mine simply on abstaining, but it certainly hasn't hurt. I was going to bail at 30 days, but I'm going for 50 now and we'll see from there.
Day 6.5 Damn ****. Sex drive already seems to be kicking back into high gear. The "numbness" is going away. For you guys who can't nut. Damn, I'm hurting for ya.
Day 3: Watched the Super Bowl. Kept myself busy by working out. Day 4: Ate a nice salad with some chicken. Worked out. Studying for an exam tomorrow.
I know that feel bro. Gotta fight those urges. I guess since I haven't watched p*rn and am instead acquiring nudes from real life chicks that I'm still in this, despite fapping. I'll say this, I don't feel bad at all after fapping to past sexual experiences plus the nudes. I always felt like shot and empty after watching p*rn.
Keep it up guys.. YOU CAN DO IT! Lol. Listen to some ray lewis. he will motivate you to keep going LOL.
oh man, i need to stop visiting the bbs hangout. too many temptations. i am having a hard time in the afternoon and in bed before falling asleep. too many fantasy going through my head. that said, i do feel a lot better these days.
This is out of topic but don't really want to make another thread for it. What is the average age a girl sees a penis for the first time now-a-days?
