Tell us the truth. You're tired of her, aren't you? You want to break up with her and that's why you didn't really try too hard on her birthday. You came here because you unconsciously want everyone to suggest a break a up, so that you can finally convince yourself to do it. Right?
Run. You have a code red nagger on your hands and it will only get worse. And she doesn't even want to kiss you? smh. Not all women are naggers as some here are saying, my wife for example hasn't nagged me one time in our 2 years of marriage.
Yes, but have you ever OFFERED to take her to Target on her birthday?? Have you ever OFFERED to buy her ice cream on her birthday?? Did you let her fall asleep ALONE on her birthday?? I'm quite certain the answer to all these questions is NO. And if they are yes, then your wife has FULL right to nag you. OP, dude.....surprise her tonight or tomorrow night with a nice bottle of wine. Have her start sipping on it while you cook dinner. DO NOT ASK IF THIS IS WHAT SHE WANTS. Man up, and just DO IT. Get her a "Just because" card that basically says, "My fault for last weekend, but this weekend is going to rock." Eat an intimate meal with her. Light a candle. Finish that bottle of wine. Connect with her. Talk about anything and everything. I'm sure when you guys first started dating, things felt more electric. Rekindle that flame. Then, when dinner is over, leave the dishes in the sink, grab her by her waist and give her the most passionate kiss you can muster up. Lead her to the bedroom, and proceed to make it a night she won't forget. Trust me, she'll forget ever being upset with you.
This is because most of these posters resemble this... ...or have never actually dated a girl for more than 1 month. I've heard those same complaints from my wife. Being a man sometimes means knowing what your girl wants without being asked. It's not an easy skill to acquire. I've been with my wife for 15 years (married for 11) and I'm still trying to figure out some of the cues. But that's a day to day thing. I sure as hell know that on her birthday I don't watch a game unless it's on a tv at the bar I can see in the distance while out to dinner. Oh...and SacTown is lying through his teeth.
The Target thing was a real killer on your part, and the $10 gift card is the sort of thing she'll never forget. Scorched earth. Point of no return.
If you want us to decide for you what you should do. You need to post some pictures. We will tell you if shes a keeper.
very interesting. It certainly seems he has checked out to some degree. She is obviously coming across as "needy", and maybe she is. But, let's assume that she isn't that needy...well then the problem would be that she is just not feeling wanted. For a woman, that's the biggest slap in the face....well beside a real slap in the face
I don't think he's "checked out." I think he doesn't know how to bring some romance into a relationship. He's probably a nice guy, and he obviously cares about her very much (helping her out since her car is repo'd, willing to spend HIS gift card on her, etc), but we all know that's not what girls want all the time. You've gotta bring passion and energy too, and not ask permission to do it either. Sometimes a girl just likes to be manhandled....it makes her feel like the man is a MAN. OP's gotta understand that.
Just showed this to my wife. She hasn't nagged me once. She's laughing while reading this. We also haven't had an argument yet. Yes, I got very lucky but I also had to go outside of the US to find her, so that may be the difference.
Good point. I think that that is something that guys don't learn or develop until they get a little older...or they just meet that person that they really love doing nice things for, and not just buying stuff.
Meeting them on the web doesn't work, you'll find the fake/flaky ones that way. You have to go over there and show that you're a real man, live in their country in the winter/snow, meet their family, eat the foods they cook, learn some of their language, prove that you're not an alcoholic and if things work out after that then you have a keeper for life. My wife is from Ukraine by the way and yes I met her while working over there and I did live there for awhile. I also don't really watch sports or play video games so that helps with her not nagging.
When you're tired of being with someone, it doesn't necessarily mean you'll turn into an *******, who doesn't care about the person. Some people will still take care of things, like buying gifts and helping them out, but the extra stuff isn't there. The extra details. Maybe he does need to learn to be a different way OR maybe he just stopped or can't be that way because he wants out.
LOL being a woman certainly means knowing what your hubby wants without being asked, same rules apply to her. Not saying he shouldn't follow a better protocol on her birthday, but he spent $300 on Christmas, bought her a promise ring, spends some cash to go see NFL games with her. Seems like the dude isn't stingy, and she does not want to kiss him because his beard hurts...trolololol.. just read her email, sounds like a 19 year old... the relationship is doomed and he needs to dump her or she needs to dump him, either way its just downhill from here on
