Shocked that some people here are actually acting like the OP is in the right. Both the OP and his chick are in the wrong. The chick comes across as a whiny unsatisfied with anything b**** The OP comes across as a guy that doesn't take charge, or really listen to her kinda guy. (Really dude, Target? Asking her if she wants to go shopping at Target on her birthday? SMH) DUDE she calls your living room- the "LOVING ROOM"! Yeah she doesn't like kissing you with your beard. (Not sure how full your beard is) Why not just trim your beard, make it smooth and even as opposed to the kind most girls would probably be at odds with(Do you have a Harden beard?) and then TAKE CHARGE. SO you didn't even give her that "Birthdaaaay Sex"? C'mon. You gotta say screw this, I got a surprise for you. Don't "offer" to make her dinner. MAKE the damn birthday dinner for her! Get some damn Moscato or Rosé or whatever she prefers and have her drink while you get dinner ready. (Get her tipsy for some sexy time later) Get that meal right, then after that get cozy in the "LOVING ROOM", maybe put in her favourite romantic movie for her to watch, give her a back massage and then BREAK HER OFF! C'mon man! She wanted non-monetary attention and for you to TAKE CHARGE! The blame isn't all on her. You definitely have to shoulder your portion of it. DO BETTER!
OP, if she is someone you feel you can and you do want to be with then you gotta make it up this weekend! You gotta make sure the birthday plans you had/have for her this weekend are on point. Maybe even book a room at a nice hotel for a night.(Obvy don't go crazy on whatever your budget is but something different might help with her). A dinner at a nice restaurant that she likes or might like, maybe even take her to a show(ballet, symphony, etc. something she might like) and then the nice hotel. Whatever you decide to do(if you want to make up to and with her) you gotta do it right!
Stage 10 clinger. She sounds pretty needy. Usually when a girl says it's not about something, that's exactly what it's about. Target? Lol
Life is about give and take. If she treats you right with your needs, then it's more than justified that she communicates her needs. Like bobrek said, what you value is different than what she values. Instead of making guesses and assumptions, clear the air with things you want. Maybe you don't bathe or brush daily and she puts up with it grudgingly. You'd never know. This is all after you "surprise" her by taking her out again and heaven forbid, talk to her. It sounds cheesy doing what she asked before, but it's better late than never and the goal would be to air things out and let the relationship grow. Gotta ask yourself if she's worth all that.
OP: Quite simply, money and gifts will not buy you satisfaction from many women. Sometimes men treat their women like whores. Harsh but true. A well adjusted woman will not measure the size of your love by how much money you're spending on her. The ones that do are bad for your long term health. Get up from the TV once in a while and give her a hug, tell her how much she means to you. Rub her feet, make her breakfast without asking. Yes, shave your beard. Real relationships aren't built by throwing money at them, they require actual work on your part. (from another happily married man)
this. so much. imo a perfect intimate birthday at home. inexpensive, and us women love this sort of s--t
And so it begins... She has been screaming this message to you for a while. I think you have been watching too many Rocket games to listen.
I apologize. I meant to say it was just one, and the other I had asked micks... for you it is this one:
Based on what you have said, I cannot really blame here. It isn't about what you would want if you were her... It is not about what you think she should want.... It is not about what you want..... It is about what SHE wants.... Throw her a bone every once in awhile...
