Then, you may need to break up with her. If you're constantly having to step out of your natural way of thinking to please her, then you're not compatible and that's not going to change. Every will road lead to one or both being unhappy.
Why is breaking up with someone always the first, and most common advice anybody gives on here?? Sometimes improving yourself is the answer. Assess what you've actually done for her (not financially, but emotionally and physically) and see if you can do more. If you feel like you do everything you can, then have a conversation with her about it. Figure out where she's coming from, and tell her YOUR view on things as well. COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY. She probably has some valid points (why didn't you say goodnight when she was in bed for 30 minutes?), as do you. She probably wanted to just feel special on her birthday, however you are extrapolating it to the entire relationship. Just keep in mind that the people telling you to break up have either had about 34 girlfriends in their lifetime, or none. Either way, it's a telling stat.
The problem isn't him, it's her. I generally think people don't change unless they really want to and believe they can. Like Toney Douglas, she is what she is.
It does sound like she is losing interest in you. Do you hear wedding bells in the future for you two? If not, then it is time to bail, don't waste your time. If you could see being with her forever then you need to step your game up. She's not a whiny b****, she just wants attention from you, She wants to feel wanted/loved. That doesn't mean buying her ****. Just say that you want to go out this weekend and have some fun. You need to plan some cool stuff to see or do, places to eat/drink, something that you have never done with her, or a place yall have never been. Just my 2 cents.
If it's a constant thing, then break up is the solution. Unless you're the kind of person that likes to please others all the time and doesn't care about yourself, then you'll never be happy in a relationship where you have to always act according to "what would he/she do." Yes, sometimes you have to talk, compromise, and give, but it shouldn't be all the time or most. If he's exaggerating how often it happens, then perhaps communication is the first step, but it sounds like he's just not happy with her because they are different...
Dump the chick You've joined in 2003 so it seems like you are somewhere in your mid 20s early 30s? How can you deal with stuff she comes up with lol. Sounds like she's still a child and is looking for an excuse to dump your ass
Why is this so complicated? You should have paid her more attention on her birthday. That's it. You seem like a guy who shows and accepts appreciation with gift-giving; she'd rather have your time and attention. So the rings and sweets and football tickets don't matter, you just have to actually talk to and spend time with the person. She told you what she wanted.
She wanted attention. And now she's gotten to your head. Women are like that sometimes. How to deal with that is entirely on a case to case basis.
1. He said he would celebrate with her this weekend. 2. He ate lunch with her. 3. He offered to make dinner. Seriously, it's her birthday, not a national holiday.
Sage advice...... and one of the biggest things a guy has to learn if he wants to last long in a relationship.
Your politics are terrible..... but you know women and relationships. I agree with you. It comes down to showing you care, and being proactive. Way too many are completely passive in their relationships and wonder why their girlfriends/wives are unhappy.
Says the somewhat happily married man...... Here is a clue OP....... listen to the guys that are married and have been for a long time.
