How about you bag a fatty then re-assess your view on humanity? Firing off a couple rounds will do wonders for your fractured self image
I understand what you were trying to say, but the way you put into words makes you seem just as childish.
I sympathize with him, I was similar to him at his age only 5-7 years ago. As a matter of fact, he has more courage now to say he doesn't like the party/drinking culture as a way to meet people because it doesn't appeal to him at all, something that I didn't have the courage to avoid as a way to meet and interact with others my age around age 20. As a matter of fact, dd people really suggest he get out and involved with that and just have a few drinks as a way to get along with the majority? Seriously, is that what we've come to? No, no--you be you as long as it's not illegal or morally outrageous. Be patient and let it all come to you. The right people will steadily stream into your life while everyone else will go by the wayside as associates. When you get older, especially after getting married and starting a family, that's how it is anyway to an increasing degree.
I don't mind people that "go out" because I like to go out myself. However, there is a significant difference between going out for like dinner at a Restaurant and going to a house party and getting trashed. Again, I don't care about going out, I don't mind going out to most places, just not to something as pointless and as stupid as these "ragers" or whatever these idiots call parties these days. Like I said, pretty big difference between going out to like a show or even a Rockets game or something and going to a party and just flat out getting trashed. It's not like I just want to sit on my ass in my couch all day and I want my girlfriend to do the same. I just don't want to go to these crowded parties where there are trashy girls everywhere getting wasted. They have the hottest girls and that's it. If I was looking to get laid and nothing more, I'd look there first, too bad that is not what I want. I'm looking for a good relationship and that is the last place to look for, polar opposites pretty much. Yes, I do have first hand experience with people are like that. I'm not sure if I mentioned this yet, but I've had plenty of former high school friends that have taken the route of being this frat boy, big time partier, pothead, etc. since entering college. There really isn't a single one of them that I wouldn't call a sheeple, whether it would be back then in high school or right now in college. I know some people that go out and go to these parties and don't really drink, good for them, but the majority of them do and I'm going to play the percentages here. I don't surround myself with those people anyways. I have one friend that does it, but he actually enjoys it and he doesn't go too far with it. One issue I have with those people is that they don't even like what they're doing, they're just doing it because everyone else is doing it. It's relatively similar with my point of view on pot, I don't care much for about the drug, but rather the fact that people only smoke the drug and do the drug because everyone else does it, not because they like it. I know plenty of people that smoked pot because they wanted to and were the first to do it before it was a trend, and I salute them for that. Nevertheless, I have no interest in doing either one, smoking or drinking, but those are just my views. I am looking for Miss Right, so I don't know what the hell this was about
Dinner at a restaurant and "rager" (not sure what that is) are not your only two options. Nothing wrong with going to a decent bar and trying to talk to some people. Might not meet your life partner, but it would be better than staying at home and posting on sports forums. The main point of my post was that you shouldn't judge people so harshly. Just because a girl goes out to more lively places than you doesn't mean she's getting gang-banged and strung out on drugs 24/7.
Me neither. If you're looking for Miss Right, why are you asking other people how to find her? If she's Miss Right, isn't that according to your rules, your standards and in your environment? Not to mention that Miss Right at 19 sounds ridiculous and highly improbable. You will change so much over the next couple of years. You could get lucky and find her at an early age, but coming to this unsophisticated forum for advice is inexplicable . It makes no sense. Like I said prioritize your goals. This shouldn't be anywhere near the top.
As long as it isn't heavy drinking, going to those stupid house parties, etc. I'm ok with it. The problem is that most people do that these days which is why all these posters on here are getting butthurt about my opinion on them. I suppose I am looking for other possible ways to make friends and find Miss Right.
As for the response below, you really don't go looking for Ms. Right, especially at your age. She just kinda floats into your life. For someone without a girlfriend, I think it's more important just getting that first experience and learning how to be in a relationship, avoiding treating it like marriage because it's new and exciting but still just being around someone you like. If something grows out of it, great, if not then you've learned something for the next time.
Go through all the posts so far, and make a list of the suggestions people gave. Cross out the ones you don't like or don't make sense, and then create a plan to try to make those changes. You can come up with hobbies or sports or whatever you want to pursue to make yourself better. Believe in yourself and everything else will come. The quality girls aren't after the most popular guy but the ones that have substance. I hope you understand this one day soon... #BeWell
Job, student organization, internet, and class. Those are places that have worked for me when it came to finding someone for a long-term relationship. Other places that could work: church, volunteering at hospitals (been in hospitals a lot lately and there are some nice looking volunteers and nurses) or for the city (there are bound to be some young do-gooder females there, right?), nice bars. The key could be putting yourself in a situation where you have to talk with others you otherwise wouldn't talk with, for whatever reason. Just be yourself and have confidence and you'll get some ass. Student organizations were good for me. Become the President or VP and (depending on the type of student organization) the women will flow like Franzia.
