How do Forever Aloners break out of their shell?

Start reading top tier business books, learn how to sell, take some sales job learn how the world works, it's just a game, learn how to network and talk to people, read the game by neil strauss and apply it to your daily interactions. Don't use it to pick up women. Also stop focusing on sports and internet message boards. They are ways to distract you from real life. The most successful entrepreneurs I know don't watch sports.

 

You need to master the game of life and interacting with people in general before you start trying to approach women. If you are a forever alone type person, odds are you don't interact well with human beings in general settings. Many men in this situation go straight into dating advice/approaching women and this is a big fail because it's too much, too soon. Just get out there and learn how do deal with people first and then apply that to women later.

 

Or you can join an MLM. They teach you how to talk real good, to anybody.

 

Well i guess i just can't imagine someone who has absolutely no social skills. I know someone who is the most socially awkward person and even he bangs some girls now and then and has a lot of friends even if they all think hes weird as hell.

Wait...come to think of it. Maybe you're right. He didn't talk to girls at all til he was old enough to go to bars. Back in the day in high school and prior, he creeped everyone out. Hanging out with all the popular kids who accepted him bc of popular relatives maybe helped him along as there were always hot girls around hanging out with those friends. I mean all those girls thought he was weird, but i'm sure years of being around his friends and seeing them and how they interact with girls and other guys helped him be where he's at today(which is still creepy awkward, but he plays it and tries to make it funny).

 

you sound like a friend of mine. always posting on FB about how he never has a girlfriend. my friend is actually attractive, isn't anti-social, has no problems talking to women. his problem is he's a doormat. let's women walk all over him. we tell him all the time that it's ok to be nice, but he's gotta grow a backbone and not let women take advantage of him.

the guy is 31 and never had a g/f.

 

Disconnect social media, stop watching p*rn 24-7, stop playing videogames all day, and get involved in community activities and events...its a way to network and you'll get an easy start, and along the way meet some nice people and perhaps people u are attracted to...

 

this works wonders. girls like interesting guys. when all you can talk about is work, sports, and video games they don't care. and as someone said earlier, get a hobby you really enjoy (not because it'll attract chicks). when you become an expert at that field, people in general become interested and you become interesting.

 

Cocaine

 

Just do what Barney from how I met your mother does.

 

This. End thread after my additional comment:

Yeah, we all want the magazine spread/cover looking women but I've found many of them aren't worth your time, even for those that can afford them. There are so many beautiful women out there that I feel it's better just finding people you have common interest in and exploring/talking about/doing those common interest. The best looking ones may grow on you in time though you may be stuck with one you don't like at the time.

Conversely, a less attractive woman (or heck, Ill say it: ugly) may grow on you in time if you guys have that much of a spark and chemistry. And what's better? To have a pretty woman who may be dumb as f*&% and who only cares about the superficial or someone you really like, get along with and who understands you? Give me the latter.

The way my uncle described and based on who he's married to, it's better to get a 7-8 instead of a perfect 10 because the 10's are used to and sometimes expect to be spoiled and for guys to go out of their way to do things for them and be with them while with a 7 or 8 you get a very beautiful woman who generally speaking is down to Earth and if you have chemistry they can make a quality life partner.

 

Cleaning up the first paragraph some...

"Yeah, we all want the magazine spread/cover looking women but I've found many of them aren't worth your time, even for those men that can afford them. There are so many beautiful women out there that I feel it's better just finding people you have common interest with and exploring/talking about/doing those common interests. You may grow on the best looking ones in time, though you may be stuck with a girl."

 

Get a job as a waiter or customer service. You'll pretty much have to

 

Join the military!

 

Be more involved at your school, work,...take up a hobby and contribute to it. Ask ppl u interact with a lot to go eat lunch or dinner with you and talk. Also stop looking at Internet p*rn and fapping so much

 

you gotta make friends before you try to get a girlfriend, it's a natural step. You need to learn how to interact with people period. Also, girls don't wanna date a loser, and you are pretty much a loser if you have no friends.

Lower your standards, too, that's the easiest step. If you don't have any experience the easiest way to get that is to go for ugly chicks. You will feel more confident around them, and gain that experience in talking to women.

 

What's the worse that can happen bro? She'll say No. That's it. I'll tell you what they told me, man up. Be confident, if you are not. Do something that helps you build confidence like working out and pursuing your hobbies. Being great at something.

Anyways, I think there should be a official clutch fans women problem thread lol.

 

Look up Densha Otoko.

 

Join a church

Become a Republican if you have to

 

I know plenty of people who met their gf/bf on their own. In fact, most of the time I don't think their bf/gf were a long time friend or even medium time friend. More like a casual acquaintance or someone they met while trying out something new.