Thanks for the feedback. I've got a feeling that it may be something she won't be able to let go. I guess I'll have to go back to my tackle box and try again. Seems dumb to completely eliminate the idea of a relationship on that sort of thing but I suppose if you believe God controls every aspect of your life then it may be significant. I don't know, I don't believe in higher power what not because I think everyone makes their own life and you accept the consequences good or bad. I could try to fake it but she does the bible study what not and I don't think I'd be able to fake that. She's just way too into it. Sad really but life goes on. I will say she is not my normal type of girl, she thinks drinking to get drunk is a sin, shes against cursing, etc... Might be more trouble then it's worth.
If you love her enough, you'll love her unconditionally. If she loves you enough, she'll tone the religious crap down.
Move on. This is coming from a Muslim dude. If you desire sex, plenty of other fish in the sea. If you want a true relationship, same thing, you'll eventually find someone more compatible where religion won't be a problem. Interfaith relationships are always complicated and for the ones that do, like someone said previously, they're half-assed in their beliefs.
do not do not do not fake it. that's ridiculous. ignore that advice like crazy. I am someone who would call himself a Christ follower...and I wouldn't want my wife, kids or anyone else I love to fake that. There is a serious cost to living a life like this, and I wouldn't want anyone I love to take it on if they weren't sincere about it....or for them to think that my affection for them was affected by their disposition to that. I'll also say me and most all Christ followers from Ireland are deep deep sinners by her definition, though I would be freaked out by someone that "religious"...and by religious, I do NOT mean devout.
I'm an atheist married to a born-again Christian. My advice to your girlfriend is to dump you and move on. I think it's harder on the Christian in such relationships than it is on the atheist. You yourself can go either way. My marriage is fine, so I think it can work. But, I've also taken steps to make sure it works that perhaps not everyone is willing to do. I promised to raise our children Christian; I attend church regularly; I often join community groups to study the bible; I read the bible and argue theology assuming the bible is true; I tithe (sometimes). I live in many ways like a Christian, except I don't believe any of it is true and I tell people so. Even so, it can cause problems. It doesn't make my wife too happy to think I'm damned. And, it's hard to explain to children that I'm teaching them all about Jesus and redemption but Daddy doesn't believe any of that stuff is true. And, it has me make ridiculous choices sometimes, like giving away my hard-earned money to a missionary to teach Indonesians a religion I don't believe in. At the same time, my wife can't do things she might feel called to do -- like giving sacrificially to the church or go be a missionary in Pakistan. So, if a Christian is going to be serious about faith, they should take the admonition about beng unequally yoked seriously. It's good advice.
You're not damned. You just weren't properly taught about God and Jesus so it's not your fault. You can still get to heaven.
The guy attends Church regularly and goes to Bible study groups and is still not convinced. Maybe if he learned about God and Jesus from a different resource. (Islaaaaaaam...come JuanValdez... join us! ) I wonder what would upset the wife more, Atheist or Muslim?? Haha.
always respected the hell out of you for your honesty here...always respected your clear love for your wife and hers for you. I believe those things are of God even if you don't you're good people.
I've always thought that when it comes to a serious relationship (one that may lead to marriage) you should date someone who is relatively similar to yourself in terms of social standing, wealth, morality, and religion. As for casual relationships/dating, it shouldn't matter at all because you'll move on after a while anyways.
Been in your situation. Know that it will only become more of an issue the farther you get in your relationship. You will be looked down upon by her family, be expected to attend church, if you have children you will be expected to raise them to believe in something you do not... In essence the core of you as a person will be compromised. Move on.. For both of you.
I don't think I could ever date a Christian, and am glad i'm married to an atheist. The level of delusion just becomes unbearable. Also I freely admit my bitterness toward the "Christians" who tried to turn me into a cult puppet ruined my chances of ever going back. Just the way it is.
That's understandable. But I dated an atheist for a while and I found that it bothered me that we agreed on so much. She also agreed with me on everything political and just about every issue that is substantial in this world. I hated that. What does that say about me? Nothing good, I'm sure, but whatev.
Sorry Max... I don't usually paint with a broad brush, but I have to pretend like I'm not a heathen around my immediate and extended family for the rest of my life, the freedom I have to be myself within my own 4 walls is incredibly liberating. Having a purely secular domestic life is the way to go for me.
Sounds like you are the one making virtually all the compromises. Don't know why your wife would want someone she loves to get involved in something that goes against their core beliefs.
