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Discussion in 'BBS Hangout' started by London'sBurning, Nov 14, 2012.

  1. Nook

    Nook Member

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    Best response.

    She was honest with you, she does not really want a serious relationship and is not ready to settle down. She may have cheated on you, but I would not assume so, and it really is immaterial.

    I would let her go, even if she stays, this issue will come up again.
     
  2. krnxsnoopy

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    My teas gone cold I'm wondering why I got out of bed at all
     
  3. finalsbound

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    not necessarily, unless you're endlessly comparing yourself to other people. several of my friends and coworkers are happily single in their mid and late 30s. you'd be surprised how long women are putting off "settling down", by choice, and have very active social/dating lives. i know a 62 year old woman who never married or had kids and she has a ton of friends, a very rewarding career, and doesn't look a day over 40. vacations all the time, lives life to the fullest. radiant.

    i'd rather be alone than settle. i don't feel comfortable in relationships. don't want kids anyway, but my mother had me and my sister at 38 and 41.
     
  4. Nook

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    It is hard for many people, not everyone makes and keeps friends easily, and not everyone is able to establish a strong support system... the mistake you are making, based on what you have posted in the past, is that you count on a love interest being a mate AND your entire support system, this is a REALLY REALLY bad idea for many reasons. First it makes you seem needy and clingy, which women do not like. Second, it means that the dynamics of the relationship all are to her advantage. Third, it makes you vulnerable and more willing to take anyone that will have you. Last, it means if/when there is a break up, you will be CRUSHED.

    Honestly you do not need a chick at this point, you need your own life. Try joing clubs or hobby groups, at your age there are many people that want to be friends. Once you have more friends you will want a mate to only be your mate, and you will be more confident and handle the situation better.

    Once you are a "little" older your perspective will probably change, unless you are Swolly.
     
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  5. Han Solo

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    Didn't read thread but sounds like she wants to travel and bang foreign dudes just like any guy wants to travel and bang foreign girls all around the world. When she's done with that, she'll come back. But, i wouldn't take her back.
     
  6. Amel

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    This, you won't find any girl that's ready at 24...

    You are still young but I understand you would like to settle down. Take your time brah, girls will come at the right moment and you'll know it...way to early to get into a marriage
     
  7. peleincubus

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    i never really wanted kids either. never know what can happen though ;)
     
  8. Lady_Di

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    Yes, I agree. She's not ready and wants to do her thing before settling down. I say, let her go.
     
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  10. Fyreball

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    If you guys are still on good terms, and even getting down in the meantime, then it sounds like she just wants to keep things casual until she goes to Australia. I say continue to keep it casual with her, and allow her to work things out for herself, while you continue to take care of yourself and do things on your time. Don't put her as a priority the way you may have in the past.....hit the gym, go to concerts, play the guitar, take up sports, go check out some ball games.....whatever YOU want to do. If she wants to be a part of your life, she will. And, definitely, make it a point to meet new people. Join a running club, or a rec league. Pick up a book, and join a reading club. You never know who's out there, including the girl you're with. Things may work out yet, but don't put your life on hold waiting for that answer.
     
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