"She has plans to travel to Australia" for good, just to visit a "friend", or what is the purpose? It seems she wanted to cut the ties BEFORE taking off and she's not hearing out any reason to stick with you. If she doesn't come clean about the reason for going down under (that's what SHE said), just let her leave. Has she told her that you need to move up in your career or hinted at the fact that you have a "decent" job? The good things come to those who wait. You're not her, though, and this girl might have other things going on that LB doesn't know about. I agree with the rest of your post...
It is necessary to strip away the vale of masculine pride to uncover the raw exterior that will manifest itself as the true ego. A woman aged 24 doesn't know what she wants. She was content with LB for a while, but now she's thinking about being free and unchained in a new country, a new place. "I wish I met you later in life" = You're a nice guy and marriage material, but I'm 24 and I just want to get wasted in a bar and wake up next to some bad decisions for a while.
Sadly none of the advice in this thread will work or make sense for you right now. The only thing you can do is to work through your feelings, try to find distractions, and then once you're in a better state emotionally, go get some strange. Doing something physical helps a lot. Running, basketball, soccer, martial arts, it doesn't matter. You get a smallish goal in mind to distract you and you can also meet people to bro out with.
let her go. at this point, the paranoia of worrying about her being faithful from halfway around the world will be maddening. if she wishes she met you later in life to settle down, it's basically her feeling like she's on the end of her youth and wants to experience personal freedom. she's panicking about growing older and not having had life experiences. she's not a bad person to want this. she's not ready to settle down. she was kind enough to tell you this right now, than to break your heart more viciously later, when she has other life experiences that involve other guys behind your back. this is a good scenario. you'd rather hear her tell the truth up front, than lie to you and stab you in the back. there's nothing wrong with you - so on the flip side, look at it this way: you attracted one nice girl like her who agreed to be with you for a long time. there's nothing stopping you from doing it again, and better. part ways, amicably, but accept it and don't expect anything else from her. you deserve to treat yourself better.
Dude, you and I sound alike. Forget what guys on here try to tell you. Don't be ashamed of not being "Mr. Social" or being an extrovert or whatever. That's just who you are. And, for da** sure, don't let these kids on here tell you how you should or shouldn't act, especially when it comes to dealing with her. If you want to communicate and/or vent to her, then do it. You handle it how YOU feel YOU need to. Though, it might just frustrate you more than anything at this point because she's probably like a brick wall right now and/or won't get anything you're trying to say. So, it COULD be best to just distance yourself all-together. But, nothing wrong with wanting or trying to actually COMMUNICATE with a girl you've been in a long relationship with. Again, don't let others judge your actions, you do what you feel YOU need to to get through this (cry, vent, punch a wall, etc). If she doesn't, you'll find a good woman who will love the man that YOU ARE not a "man" you're trying to portray.
Well, this all I can agree with. But, like I said, he's going through a tough time as is. No need to throw a WHOLE other HEAVY layer on top of it. Believe me, I've been there, he doesn't need that especially if there's no real reason to accuse her of it.
I seen this one **** on the news a couple weeks ago that made me sick. Some dude was drunk and drove his car over a bridge and had his girlfriend in the trunk and she was pregnant with his kid and in the car they found a tape, but they didn't say who it was to Come to think about, his name was.. it was you.. Cheer up man. Changes are bound to happen in anything and everything. Let her be and if it was meant to be then she will come back to you. Keep your head up. nosebleed.
We're not here to pile on in an attempt to make him feel worse. We're here to apply what we've learned from this life, or else the past is only a mechanism of masochism.
She says she's young and is scared of commitment. She wants to see the world and there's a 30 and under visa USA citizens can do to live in Australia for a year. She doesn't know whether she'll like Australia and will want to come back to Austin sooner or will love it and will want to stay longer. Or if she'll meet a group of people doing the same thing that will want to travel around to other countries. She wants to get that out of her system. That's understandable. The truth is I would as well. That was the plan for the both of us. This travel to Australia thing has been talked up and down for months between the both of us. I just had extra income for a house and wanted to make it a rental if possible before traveling. My job is "decent" but its dead end and she thinks I can do a lot better for myself than the one I got. There's an upgrade in salary and stature for me if I request out of a different department my boss has already agreed to do if I want. I agree with her that I can do better for myself than the job I have now. I've taken a break from school until I figure out exactly what career I'd like to pursue. I just don't see the point in dumping money into a college degree that may not lead to what I'd really like to do. I love to learn and I teach myself a lot outside of school and look at a diploma as a piece of paper that says I completed something I may already have a lot of knowledge on to begin with. I'm all for finishing my last two years. I just haven't decided on a major yet and it sure as hell won't be in liberal arts ( No offense.) School is expensive and I want to make sure its worth it is all.
At this point that is irrelevant, her actions in regard to a certain point in time just stem from our own failures as a race to learn to divide the fragments of time and space and instead be comfortable with schedule and linear calendars. My own experience tells me a woman would never admit such things because she knows how it would hurt. The only way to look at that point is forward and recognize the value in harsh truth. It can strip away the false ego and bear new fruit. Fire will always purify and replace the soil with a better product.
Thank you, my mind is an open canvass for you all to see. I hope I have given back to this community some of the wisdom it has passed on to me.
Embrace your freedom brah. There's a bunch of Al Bundys on this site ...you dont want to end up like them. Old, fat, bald ...2 - 3 bad ass kids. Spending all your money and time at work ...soccer practice ..baseball practice...only to make ends meet ..while you grow older and fatter ...EMBRACE YOUR FREEDOM BRAH!
Don't act like you need her so bad, that scares her off. Just start doing something yourself, workout and all, don't call/text her. She would be the one trying to get you back in the end, trust me.
Theoretical question - would it hurt less, just as much or more if the other people the person in question has been "involved" with are women?
